{"id":4862,"date":"2021-05-28T06:00:00","date_gmt":"2021-05-28T06:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/?p=4862"},"modified":"2021-06-04T19:56:42","modified_gmt":"2021-06-04T19:56:42","slug":"z-cervnove-medunky-laska-umozni-aby-lide-vzkvetali","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/2021\/05\/28\/z-cervnove-medunky-laska-umozni-aby-lide-vzkvetali\/","title":{"rendered":"Z \u010dervnov\u00e9 Medu\u0148ky: L\u00e1ska umo\u017en\u00ed, aby lid\u00e9 vzkv\u00e9tali&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><strong>Tento t\u00fdden vy\u0161lo \u010dervnov\u00e9 \u010d\u00edslo MEDU\u0147KY <\/strong>a jak u\u017e mo\u017en\u00e1 v\u00edte, <strong>hlavn\u00ed t\u00e9ma je u\u017e tradi\u010dn\u011b v\u011bnov\u00e1no d\u011btem a jejich rodi\u010d\u016fm.<\/strong> Co je t\u0159eba ud\u011blat pro to, aby d\u011bti byly \u0161\u0165astn\u00e9 a jejich rodi\u010de co mo\u017en\u00e1 nev\u00edce spokojen\u00ed? Nad t\u00edm se v celkem sedmi p\u0159\u00edsp\u011bvc\u00edch v r\u00e1mci t\u00e9matu zam\u00fd\u0161leli na\u0161i auto\u0159i a op\u011bt nab\u00eddli r\u016fznorod\u00fd \u00fahel pohledu. <br><strong>A v tituln\u00edm rozhovoru jsme si pov\u00eddaly s dr. Michaelou V\u00edte\u010dkovou<\/strong> a probrali jsme toho opravdu dost &#8211; od zku\u0161enost\u00ed z poradenstv\u00ed p\u0159es v\u00fdb\u011br vhodn\u00e9 \u0161koly a spiritu\u00e1ln\u00ed v\u00fdchovu a\u017e k d\u016fle\u017eitosti l\u00e1skypln\u00e9ho rodinn\u00e9ho prost\u0159ed\u00ed. P\u0159e\u010dt\u011bte si uk\u00e1zku z na\u0161eho rozhovoru a nepozapome\u0148te, \u017ee MEDU\u0147Ka je tady pro v\u00e1s, m\u016f\u017eete si koupit v klasick\u00e9 &#8222;pap\u00edrov\u00e9&#8220; podob\u011b nebo \u010d\u00edst v elektronick\u00e9 podob\u011b na <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/2020\/03\/18\/elektronickou-verzi-medunky-sezenete-na-emedunka-cz\/\" data-type=\"post\" data-id=\"2535\">emedunka.cz<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p> <strong>PhDr. Michaelu V\u00edte\u010dkovou, Ph.D. mohou \u010dten\u00e1\u0159i Medu\u0148ky zn\u00e1t z&nbsp;jej\u00edho seri\u00e1lu <em>Vychov\u00e1v\u00e1me zdrav\u00e9 a<\/em> <em>\u0161\u0165astn\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b <\/em>i z&nbsp;dal\u0161\u00edch \u010dl\u00e1nk\u016f, kter\u00e9 pro n\u00e1\u0161 \u010dasopis p\u0159ipravila. V\u011bnuje se pedagogick\u00e9mu poradenstv\u00ed a v&nbsp;t\u00e9to &nbsp;profesi vyu\u017e\u00edv\u00e1 jak znalost teorie, tak sv\u00e9 r\u016fznorod\u00e9 zku\u0161enosti z&nbsp;praxe, ale prostor d\u00e1v\u00e1 i intuici. O sv\u00e9 pr\u00e1ci hovo\u0159\u00ed zasv\u011bcen\u011b a naslouchat jej\u00edm zku\u0161enostem je zaj\u00edmav\u00e9 a pou\u010dn\u00e9. V\u011b\u0159\u00edme, mil\u00ed \u010dten\u00e1\u0159i, \u017ee n\u00e1sleduj\u00edc\u00ed rozhovor bude inspirativn\u00ed i pro v\u00e1s. &nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Cesta k&nbsp;poradenstv\u00ed<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Pan\u00ed doktorko, na pra\u017esk\u00e9 FFUK jste vystudovala soci\u00e1ln\u00ed pedagogiku a pedagogick\u00e9 poradenstv\u00ed. Pro\u010d jste si vybrala zrovna tento obor a kudy vedla va\u0161e cesta a\u017e k&nbsp;zalo\u017een\u00ed poradny, ve kter\u00e9 nyn\u00ed p\u016fsob\u00edte? &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/strong><br>U\u017e od \u0161koln\u00edch let m\u011b bavilo hledat zp\u016fsoby, jak p\u0159ekon\u00e1vat pot\u00ed\u017ee s&nbsp;u\u010den\u00edm. Sama jsem bojovala s&nbsp;matematikou a v&nbsp;okol\u00ed se setk\u00e1vala s&nbsp;r\u016fzn\u00fdmi probl\u00e9my. Napadlo m\u011b, \u017ee bych se cht\u011bla t\u00e9to problematice profesn\u011b v\u011bnovat. Po studi\u00edch jsem z\u016fstala na fakult\u011b a p\u016fsobila na akademick\u00e9 p\u016fd\u011b. U\u010dila jsem tam do sv\u00fdch 40 let, pak jsem pracovala na r\u016fzn\u00fdch projektech, t\u00fdkaj\u00edc\u00edch se poradenstv\u00ed na z\u00e1kladn\u00edch \u0161kol\u00e1ch. Za\u010dal mi ale chyb\u011bt v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed kontakt s&nbsp;prax\u00ed a uv\u011bdomila jsem si, \u017ee n\u011bkter\u00e9 sv\u00e9 p\u0159edpoklady bych v&nbsp;praxi mohla uplatnit l\u00e9pe ne\u017e v&nbsp;akademick\u00e9m prost\u0159ed\u00ed. A tak jsem zalo\u017eila vlastn\u00ed poradnu. Do pedagogick\u00e9ho poradenstv\u00ed jsem se pustila v\u011bdom\u011b a s&nbsp;touhou se touto oblast\u00ed zab\u00fdvat, proto\u017ee c\u00edt\u00edm, \u017ee je to moje cesta. V\u00fdhodou je, \u017ee m\u00e1m i pedagogickou zku\u0161enost \u2013 pokud m\u00e1m radit u\u010ditel\u016fm nebo rodi\u010d\u016fm, je nutn\u00e9 v\u011bd\u011bt, co je v&nbsp;praxi re\u00e1ln\u011b mo\u017en\u00e9 a kter\u00e1 doporu\u010den\u00ed se v&nbsp;praxi nedaj\u00ed snadno aplikovat. Pedagogick\u00e9 pr\u00e1ci, tedy u\u010den\u00ed, se te\u010f v\u011bnuji m\u00e9n\u011b, ale \u00fapln\u011b ji nezanedb\u00e1v\u00e1m a m\u00e1m v&nbsp;\u00famyslu se v&nbsp;budoucnu k&nbsp;u\u010ditelstv\u00ed znovu vr\u00e1tit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Ve sv\u00e9 poradn\u011b p\u016fsob\u00edte sama?<\/strong><br>Ano, ale \u010dasto spolupracuji s&nbsp;dal\u0161\u00edmi odborn\u00edky, v&nbsp;sou\u010dasn\u00e9 dob\u011b se&nbsp;pod\u00edl\u00edm na komunitn\u00edm vzd\u011bl\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed, nahl\u00e9dla jsem do sv\u011bta svobodn\u00fdch \u0161kol a podporuji metodicky dom\u00e1c\u00ed vzd\u011bl\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed. Po\u0159\u00e1d\u00e1m tak\u00e9 r\u016fzn\u00e9 p\u0159edn\u00e1\u0161ky a semin\u00e1\u0159e a n\u011bkter\u00e9 p\u0159\u00edpady ze sv\u00e9 praxe konzultuji s&nbsp;kolegy. Pova\u017euji za d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 z\u00edsk\u00e1vat v&nbsp;oboru st\u00e1le nov\u00e9 podn\u011bty. &nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Jak prob\u00edh\u00e1 konzultace ve va\u0161\u00ed poradn\u011b?<\/strong><br>V\u011bt\u0161inou s&nbsp;rodi\u010di p\u0159edem telefonicky proberu, o jak\u00fd probl\u00e9m se jedn\u00e1. Kdy\u017e je z\u00e1va\u017en\u011bj\u0161\u00ed, setk\u00e1m se nejprve s&nbsp;nimi, abychom si vyjasnili informace, kter\u00e9 nen\u00ed dobr\u00e9 ventilovat p\u0159ed d\u011btmi, v&nbsp;p\u0159\u00edpadech m\u00edrn\u011bj\u0161\u00edch probl\u00e9m\u016f p\u0159ijdou rodi\u010de rovnou s&nbsp;d\u00edt\u011btem. Sna\u017e\u00edm se vn\u00edmat skute\u010dn\u00e9 pot\u0159eby d\u00edt\u011bte, p\u0159ibl\u00ed\u017eit se k&nbsp;n\u011bmu, u men\u0161\u00edch d\u011bt\u00ed t\u0159eba formou hry nebo kresby, aby ke mn\u011b m\u011blo d\u016fv\u011bru a c\u00edtilo se se mnou dob\u0159e a j\u00e1 s&nbsp;n\u00edm. Vztah mezi mnou a d\u00edt\u011btem mus\u00ed fungovat oboustrann\u011b, tomuto nalad\u011bn\u00ed v\u011bnuji velkou pozornost. N\u011bkdy rodi\u010de tak\u00e9 p\u0159inesou r\u016fzn\u00e9 zpr\u00e1vy z pedagogick\u00fdch poraden. Na z\u00e1klad\u011b v\u0161ech z\u00edskan\u00fdch informac\u00ed si stanov\u00edme c\u00edl na\u0161eho setk\u00e1n\u00ed nebo setk\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed a j\u00e1 sestav\u00edm program, kter\u00fd k&nbsp;tomu c\u00edli povede. Je to odborn\u00e1 pr\u00e1ce, ale nemalou roli p\u0159i n\u00ed hraje i intuice \u2013 c\u00edt\u00edm a vn\u00edm\u00e1m, co d\u00edt\u011b ode mne pot\u0159ebuje. To je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e1 sou\u010d\u00e1st m\u00e9ho p\u0159\u00edstupu k&nbsp;poradenstv\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Jak\u00e9 je v\u011bkov\u00e9 spektrum va\u0161ich d\u011btsk\u00fdch klient\u016f?<\/strong><br>\u0160irok\u00e9 &#8211; od p\u0159ed\u0161kol\u00e1k\u016f, u nich\u017e jde \u010dasto o to zjistit, jestli je d\u00edt\u011b u\u017e zral\u00e9 pro vstup do \u0161koly, p\u0159es d\u011bti r\u016fzn\u00e9ho v\u011bku ze z\u00e1kladn\u00ed \u0161koly a\u017e k&nbsp;\u017e\u00e1k\u016fm nejvy\u0161\u0161\u00edch t\u0159\u00edd Z\u0160, kte\u0159\u00ed nap\u0159\u00edklad pot\u0159ebuj\u00ed pomoci s&nbsp;v\u00fdb\u011brem vhodn\u00e9 st\u0159edn\u00ed \u0161koly. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Poradenstv\u00ed se&nbsp;v\u011bnujete osm let. Sledujete b\u011bhem t\u00e9to doby u d\u011bt\u00ed a rodi\u010d\u016f nebo v\u016fbec ve&nbsp;v\u00fdchov\u011b n\u011bjak\u00e9 zm\u011bny nebo aktu\u00e1ln\u00ed trendy?<\/strong><br>Zm\u011bny ur\u010dit\u011b pozoruji. D\u0159\u00edv ke mn\u011b chodili rodi\u010de s&nbsp;d\u011btmi, kter\u00e9 m\u011bly skute\u010dn\u011b velk\u00e9 probl\u00e9my, rodina ani \u0161kola si s t\u00edm nev\u011bd\u011bla rady, situace m\u011bla dopad na psychiku d\u00edt\u011bte. V&nbsp;sou\u010dasn\u00e9 dob\u011b p\u0159iv\u00e1d\u011bj\u00ed rodi\u010de \u010dast\u011bji d\u011bti s&nbsp;m\u00e9n\u011b z\u00e1va\u017en\u00fdmi probl\u00e9my, sp\u00ed\u0161e jde o to vytvo\u0159it d\u00edt\u011bti ur\u010dit\u00fd komfort. Bu\u010f mu pomoci, kdy\u017e se mu \u00fapln\u011b neda\u0159\u00ed, co\u017e je v&nbsp;po\u0159\u00e1dku, nebo mu trochu \u201eum\u00e9st\u201c cestu, aby z\u00edskalo n\u011bjak\u00e9 potvrzen\u00ed, a t\u00edm p\u00e1dem bylo ve \u0161kole \u201eh\u00e1jen\u00e9\u201c &#8211; s&nbsp;t\u00edm se setk\u00e1v\u00e1m dost \u010dasto. Rodi\u010de tak\u00e9 mnohem v\u00edce p\u0159em\u00fd\u0161lej\u00ed o \u0161koln\u00ed dr\u00e1ze sv\u00fdch d\u011bt\u00ed, d\u0159\u00edve d\u00edt\u011b <s>prost\u011b<\/s> nastoupilo do sp\u00e1dov\u00e9 z\u00e1kladn\u00ed \u0161koly, dnes se rodi\u010de sna\u017e\u00ed z\u00edskat pro d\u00edt\u011b to nejlep\u0161\u00ed. To je pochopiteln\u00e9, ale z&nbsp;m\u00e9ho pohledu to, co zvn\u011bj\u0161ku vypad\u00e1 jako to nejlep\u0161\u00ed, nemus\u00ed b\u00fdt nejlep\u0161\u00ed pro konkr\u00e9tn\u00ed d\u00edt\u011b a pro jeho vnit\u0159n\u00ed pot\u0159eby. N\u011bkdy se moc vyb\u00edr\u00e1, a\u017e se p\u0159ebere. Setk\u00e1v\u00e1m se s&nbsp;t\u00edm, \u017ee d\u00edt\u011b m\u011bn\u00ed \u0161kolu t\u0159eba i 3x nebo 4x b\u011bhem \u0161koln\u00ed doch\u00e1zky, a to u\u017e se m\u016f\u017ee negativn\u011b projevit. <s>&nbsp;<br><br><\/s><strong>Jak vyb\u00edrat \u0161kolu\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Jak\u00e9 jsou p\u0159\u00ed\u010diny? Jde o to, \u017ee rodi\u010de cht\u011bj\u00ed pro sv\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b to nejlep\u0161\u00ed, ale vlastn\u011b nev\u011bd\u00ed, co to je?<\/strong><br>Nab\u00eddka \u0161kol je pestr\u00e1 a po\u017eadavky rodi\u010d\u016f se li\u0161\u00ed \u2013 n\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed o\u010dek\u00e1vaj\u00ed od d\u00edt\u011bte v\u00fdkon a od \u0161koly strukturu, co\u017e je st\u00e1le spojeno sp\u00ed\u0161 s&nbsp;klasick\u00fdm \u0161kolstv\u00edm, jin\u00ed rodi\u010de naopak t\u00edhnou k&nbsp;n\u011bjak\u00e9 alternativ\u011b. T\u0159eba neradi vzpom\u00ednaj\u00ed na svou \u0161koln\u00ed doch\u00e1zku, kde za\u017eili stres ze zkou\u0161en\u00ed nebo \u0161ikanu, a cht\u011bj\u00ed od toho sv\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b uchr\u00e1nit. \u010casto na d\u00edt\u011b p\u0159en\u00e1\u0161ej\u00ed sv\u016fj strach z&nbsp;toho, co sami za\u017eili. &nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>\u0158\u00edk\u00e1te, \u017ee to nejlep\u0161\u00ed nemus\u00ed b\u00fdt nejlep\u0161\u00ed pro dan\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b. M\u016f\u017eete to bl\u00ed\u017ee vysv\u011btlit? &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/strong><br>Uvedu p\u0159\u00edklad ze sv\u00e9 praxe. Setkala jsem se s chlapcem, jeho\u017e rodi\u010de si pro n\u011bj p\u0159\u00e1li co nejsvobodn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed vzd\u011bl\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed, bez hodnocen\u00ed a zn\u00e1mek, s&nbsp;partnersk\u00fdm p\u0159\u00edstupem. Vybrali \u0161kolu velmi partnersky nastavenou, ale chlapec m\u011bl probl\u00e9my s&nbsp;hyperaktivitou, a ta volnost ve \u0161kole pro n\u011bj byla p\u0159\u00edli\u0161n\u00e1. V\u016fbec se nenau\u010dil pracovat se sv\u00fdm \u010dasem, neum\u011bl se u\u010dit ani si nic zorganizovat, prost\u011b se&nbsp;v&nbsp;t\u00e9 bezb\u0159eh\u00e9 volnosti naprosto ztr\u00e1cel. Hyperaktivita se stup\u0148ovala, bylo jasn\u00e9, \u017ee pot\u0159ebuje \u0159\u00e1d a n\u011bjak\u00e9 mantinely, v&nbsp;nich\u017e se bude um\u011bt pohybovat, proto\u017ee jeho zmatek vy\u00fastil v&nbsp;probl\u00e9mov\u00e9 chov\u00e1n\u00ed. Kdy\u017e dosp\u011bl\u00fd sv\u011bt d\u00edt\u011bti nenastavuje mantinely, d\u00edt\u011b si je nastav\u00ed samo a za\u010dne dosp\u011bl\u00fd sv\u011bt organizovat, proto\u017ee c\u00edt\u00ed jeho slabost. Bere odpov\u011bdnost na sebe a je t\u00edm zat\u00ed\u017een\u00e9 a frustrovan\u00e9. \u010casto n\u00e1sleduje zhor\u0161en\u00e9 chov\u00e1n\u00ed \u2013 d\u00edt\u011b tak vol\u00e1 po v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed struktu\u0159e a jistot\u011b. Nav\u00edc se p\u0159i srovn\u00e1n\u00ed s vrstevn\u00edky mnohdy uk\u00e1\u017ee, \u017ee oni jsou u\u017e ve v\u00fduce mnohem d\u00e1l, a to nen\u00ed dobr\u00e9 pro sebev\u011bdom\u00ed d\u00edt\u011bte. Pro n\u011bkter\u00e9 d\u011bti voln\u00e9 vzd\u011bl\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed nen\u00ed vhodn\u00e9 a n\u011bkdy b\u00fdv\u00e1 obt\u00ed\u017en\u00e9 to rodi\u010d\u016fm vysv\u011btlit. Rodi\u010de sly\u0161\u00ed na to, \u017ee u\u010ditel bude pr\u016fvodcem, nebudou zn\u00e1mky a testy, d\u00edt\u011b si bude vyb\u00edrat, co se bude u\u010dit\u2026 Jen\u017ee d\u00edt\u011b se nejd\u0159\u00edv pot\u0159ebuje nau\u010dit u\u010dit, kdy\u017e neum\u00ed \u010d\u00edst ani ps\u00e1t, t\u011b\u017eko si samo zorganizuje sv\u016fj u\u010debn\u00ed \u010das. V\u0161echno se pak ot\u00e1\u010d\u00ed proti n\u011bmu, a to byl pr\u00e1v\u011b p\u0159\u00edpad tohoto chlapce. Rodi\u010de se nakonec rozhodli, \u017ee ho daj\u00ed do \u0161koly jin\u00e9ho typu a mysl\u00edm, \u017ee to u n\u011bj povede ke zklidn\u011bn\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Pro\u010d je pro n\u011bkter\u00e9 rodi\u010de tak l\u00e1kav\u00e1 p\u0159edstava voln\u00e9 \u0161koly? Je to reakce na p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 \u201ese\u0161n\u011brovan\u00e9\u201c b\u011b\u017en\u00e9 \u0161kolstv\u00ed?<\/strong><br>Asi ano, proto\u017ee na\u0161e \u0161kolstv\u00ed to \u201ese\u0161n\u011brov\u00e1n\u00ed\u201c v&nbsp;sob\u011b m\u011blo a v&nbsp;ur\u010dit\u00fdch aspektech st\u00e1le m\u00e1. Objevuj\u00ed se snahy o jeho prom\u011bnu, mnoz\u00ed pedagogov\u00e9 jsou velmi inovativn\u00ed, ale st\u00e1le jde sp\u00ed\u0161e o jednotlivce a je t\u0159eba m\u011bnit cel\u00fd syst\u00e9m. Mo\u017enost, \u017ee d\u011bti budou u\u010diteli tykat, mo\u017en\u00e1 n\u011bkoho p\u0159ekvap\u00ed, ale podle mne to nen\u00ed probl\u00e9m, stejn\u011b jako nen\u00ed probl\u00e9m, kdy\u017e d\u011bti nejsou hodnoceny zn\u00e1mkami. D\u011bti zn\u00e1mky nepot\u0159ebuj\u00ed, ve \u0161kol\u00e1ch je v\u011bt\u0161inou v\u00edce cht\u011bj\u00ed rodi\u010de \u2013 p\u0159ej\u00ed si, aby d\u011bti dom\u016f nosily jedni\u010dky. Zn\u00e1mkov\u00e1n\u00ed je sp\u00ed\u0161 vn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed donucovac\u00ed prost\u0159edek, d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e1 je vnit\u0159n\u00ed motivace d\u00edt\u011bte k&nbsp;u\u010den\u00ed. Ve \u0161kol\u00e1ch mn\u011b chyb\u00ed v\u00edc voln\u00e9ho pohybu p\u0159i u\u010den\u00ed&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Tento t\u00fdden vy\u0161lo \u010dervnov\u00e9 \u010d\u00edslo MEDU\u0147KY a jak u\u017e mo\u017en\u00e1 v\u00edte, hlavn\u00ed t\u00e9ma je u\u017e tradi\u010dn\u011b v\u011bnov\u00e1no d\u011btem a jejich rodi\u010d\u016fm. Co je t\u0159eba ud\u011blat pro to, aby d\u011bti byly \u0161\u0165astn\u00e9 a jejich rodi\u010de co mo\u017en\u00e1 nev\u00edce spokojen\u00ed? Nad t\u00edm se v celkem sedmi p\u0159\u00edsp\u011bvc\u00edch v r\u00e1mci t\u00e9matu zam\u00fd\u0161leli na\u0161i auto\u0159i a op\u011bt nab\u00eddli r\u016fznorod\u00fd \u00fahel pohledu. A v tituln\u00edm rozhovoru jsme si pov\u00eddaly s dr. Michaelou V\u00edte\u010dkovou a probrali jsme toho opravdu dost &#8211; od zku\u0161enost\u00ed z poradenstv\u00ed p\u0159es v\u00fdb\u011br vhodn\u00e9 \u0161koly a spiritu\u00e1ln\u00ed v\u00fdchovu a\u017e k d\u016fle\u017eitosti l\u00e1skypln\u00e9ho rodinn\u00e9ho prost\u0159ed\u00ed. P\u0159e\u010dt\u011bte si uk\u00e1zku z na\u0161eho rozhovoru a nepozapome\u0148te, \u017ee MEDU\u0147Ka je tady pro v\u00e1s, m\u016f\u017eete si koupit v klasick\u00e9 &#8222;pap\u00edrov\u00e9&#8220; podob\u011b nebo \u010d\u00edst v elektronick\u00e9 podob\u011b na emedunka.cz PhDr. Michaelu V\u00edte\u010dkovou, Ph.D. mohou \u010dten\u00e1\u0159i Medu\u0148ky zn\u00e1t z&nbsp;jej\u00edho seri\u00e1lu Vychov\u00e1v\u00e1me zdrav\u00e9 a \u0161\u0165astn\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b i z&nbsp;dal\u0161\u00edch \u010dl\u00e1nk\u016f, kter\u00e9 pro n\u00e1\u0161 \u010dasopis p\u0159ipravila. V\u011bnuje se pedagogick\u00e9mu poradenstv\u00ed a v&nbsp;t\u00e9to &nbsp;profesi vyu\u017e\u00edv\u00e1 jak znalost teorie, tak sv\u00e9 r\u016fznorod\u00e9 zku\u0161enosti z&nbsp;praxe, ale prostor d\u00e1v\u00e1 i intuici. O sv\u00e9 pr\u00e1ci hovo\u0159\u00ed zasv\u011bcen\u011b a naslouchat jej\u00edm zku\u0161enostem je zaj\u00edmav\u00e9 a pou\u010dn\u00e9. V\u011b\u0159\u00edme, mil\u00ed \u010dten\u00e1\u0159i, \u017ee n\u00e1sleduj\u00edc\u00ed rozhovor bude inspirativn\u00ed i pro v\u00e1s. &nbsp; Cesta k&nbsp;poradenstv\u00ed Pan\u00ed doktorko, na pra\u017esk\u00e9 FFUK jste vystudovala soci\u00e1ln\u00ed pedagogiku a pedagogick\u00e9 poradenstv\u00ed. Pro\u010d jste si vybrala zrovna tento obor a kudy vedla va\u0161e cesta a\u017e k&nbsp;zalo\u017een\u00ed poradny, ve kter\u00e9 nyn\u00ed p\u016fsob\u00edte? &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;U\u017e od \u0161koln\u00edch let m\u011b bavilo hledat zp\u016fsoby, jak p\u0159ekon\u00e1vat pot\u00ed\u017ee s&nbsp;u\u010den\u00edm. Sama jsem bojovala s&nbsp;matematikou a v&nbsp;okol\u00ed se setk\u00e1vala s&nbsp;r\u016fzn\u00fdmi probl\u00e9my. Napadlo m\u011b, \u017ee bych se cht\u011bla t\u00e9to problematice profesn\u011b v\u011bnovat. Po studi\u00edch jsem z\u016fstala na fakult\u011b a p\u016fsobila na akademick\u00e9 p\u016fd\u011b. U\u010dila jsem tam do sv\u00fdch 40 let, pak jsem pracovala na r\u016fzn\u00fdch projektech, t\u00fdkaj\u00edc\u00edch se poradenstv\u00ed na z\u00e1kladn\u00edch \u0161kol\u00e1ch. Za\u010dal mi ale chyb\u011bt v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed kontakt s&nbsp;prax\u00ed a uv\u011bdomila jsem si, \u017ee n\u011bkter\u00e9 sv\u00e9 p\u0159edpoklady bych v&nbsp;praxi mohla uplatnit l\u00e9pe ne\u017e v&nbsp;akademick\u00e9m prost\u0159ed\u00ed. A tak jsem zalo\u017eila vlastn\u00ed poradnu. Do pedagogick\u00e9ho poradenstv\u00ed jsem se pustila v\u011bdom\u011b a s&nbsp;touhou se touto oblast\u00ed zab\u00fdvat, proto\u017ee c\u00edt\u00edm, \u017ee je to moje cesta. V\u00fdhodou je, \u017ee m\u00e1m i pedagogickou zku\u0161enost \u2013 pokud m\u00e1m radit u\u010ditel\u016fm nebo rodi\u010d\u016fm, je nutn\u00e9 v\u011bd\u011bt, co je v&nbsp;praxi re\u00e1ln\u011b mo\u017en\u00e9 a kter\u00e1 doporu\u010den\u00ed se v&nbsp;praxi nedaj\u00ed snadno aplikovat. Pedagogick\u00e9 pr\u00e1ci, tedy u\u010den\u00ed, se te\u010f v\u011bnuji m\u00e9n\u011b, ale \u00fapln\u011b ji nezanedb\u00e1v\u00e1m a m\u00e1m v&nbsp;\u00famyslu se v&nbsp;budoucnu k&nbsp;u\u010ditelstv\u00ed znovu vr\u00e1tit. Ve sv\u00e9 poradn\u011b p\u016fsob\u00edte sama?Ano, ale \u010dasto spolupracuji s&nbsp;dal\u0161\u00edmi odborn\u00edky, v&nbsp;sou\u010dasn\u00e9 dob\u011b se&nbsp;pod\u00edl\u00edm na komunitn\u00edm vzd\u011bl\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed, nahl\u00e9dla jsem do sv\u011bta svobodn\u00fdch \u0161kol a podporuji metodicky dom\u00e1c\u00ed vzd\u011bl\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed. Po\u0159\u00e1d\u00e1m tak\u00e9 r\u016fzn\u00e9 p\u0159edn\u00e1\u0161ky a semin\u00e1\u0159e a n\u011bkter\u00e9 p\u0159\u00edpady ze sv\u00e9 praxe konzultuji s&nbsp;kolegy. Pova\u017euji za d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 z\u00edsk\u00e1vat v&nbsp;oboru st\u00e1le nov\u00e9 podn\u011bty. &nbsp;&nbsp; Jak prob\u00edh\u00e1 konzultace ve va\u0161\u00ed poradn\u011b?V\u011bt\u0161inou s&nbsp;rodi\u010di p\u0159edem telefonicky proberu, o jak\u00fd probl\u00e9m se jedn\u00e1. Kdy\u017e je z\u00e1va\u017en\u011bj\u0161\u00ed, setk\u00e1m se nejprve s&nbsp;nimi, abychom si vyjasnili informace, kter\u00e9 nen\u00ed dobr\u00e9 ventilovat p\u0159ed d\u011btmi, v&nbsp;p\u0159\u00edpadech m\u00edrn\u011bj\u0161\u00edch probl\u00e9m\u016f p\u0159ijdou rodi\u010de rovnou s&nbsp;d\u00edt\u011btem. Sna\u017e\u00edm se vn\u00edmat skute\u010dn\u00e9 pot\u0159eby d\u00edt\u011bte, p\u0159ibl\u00ed\u017eit se k&nbsp;n\u011bmu, u men\u0161\u00edch d\u011bt\u00ed t\u0159eba formou hry nebo kresby, aby ke mn\u011b m\u011blo d\u016fv\u011bru a c\u00edtilo se se mnou dob\u0159e a j\u00e1 s&nbsp;n\u00edm. Vztah mezi mnou a d\u00edt\u011btem mus\u00ed fungovat oboustrann\u011b, tomuto nalad\u011bn\u00ed v\u011bnuji velkou pozornost. N\u011bkdy rodi\u010de tak\u00e9 p\u0159inesou r\u016fzn\u00e9 zpr\u00e1vy z pedagogick\u00fdch poraden. Na z\u00e1klad\u011b v\u0161ech z\u00edskan\u00fdch informac\u00ed si stanov\u00edme c\u00edl na\u0161eho setk\u00e1n\u00ed nebo setk\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed a j\u00e1 sestav\u00edm program, kter\u00fd k&nbsp;tomu c\u00edli povede. Je to odborn\u00e1 pr\u00e1ce, ale nemalou roli p\u0159i n\u00ed hraje i intuice \u2013 c\u00edt\u00edm a vn\u00edm\u00e1m, co d\u00edt\u011b ode mne pot\u0159ebuje. To je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e1 sou\u010d\u00e1st m\u00e9ho p\u0159\u00edstupu k&nbsp;poradenstv\u00ed. Jak\u00e9 je v\u011bkov\u00e9 spektrum va\u0161ich d\u011btsk\u00fdch klient\u016f?\u0160irok\u00e9 &#8211; od p\u0159ed\u0161kol\u00e1k\u016f, u nich\u017e jde \u010dasto o to zjistit, jestli je d\u00edt\u011b u\u017e zral\u00e9 pro vstup do \u0161koly, p\u0159es d\u011bti r\u016fzn\u00e9ho v\u011bku ze z\u00e1kladn\u00ed \u0161koly a\u017e k&nbsp;\u017e\u00e1k\u016fm nejvy\u0161\u0161\u00edch t\u0159\u00edd Z\u0160, kte\u0159\u00ed nap\u0159\u00edklad pot\u0159ebuj\u00ed pomoci s&nbsp;v\u00fdb\u011brem vhodn\u00e9 st\u0159edn\u00ed \u0161koly. &nbsp; Poradenstv\u00ed se&nbsp;v\u011bnujete osm let. Sledujete b\u011bhem t\u00e9to doby u d\u011bt\u00ed a rodi\u010d\u016f nebo v\u016fbec ve&nbsp;v\u00fdchov\u011b n\u011bjak\u00e9 zm\u011bny nebo aktu\u00e1ln\u00ed trendy?Zm\u011bny ur\u010dit\u011b pozoruji. D\u0159\u00edv ke mn\u011b chodili rodi\u010de s&nbsp;d\u011btmi, kter\u00e9 m\u011bly skute\u010dn\u011b velk\u00e9 probl\u00e9my, rodina ani \u0161kola si s t\u00edm nev\u011bd\u011bla rady, situace m\u011bla dopad na psychiku d\u00edt\u011bte. V&nbsp;sou\u010dasn\u00e9 dob\u011b p\u0159iv\u00e1d\u011bj\u00ed rodi\u010de \u010dast\u011bji d\u011bti s&nbsp;m\u00e9n\u011b z\u00e1va\u017en\u00fdmi probl\u00e9my, sp\u00ed\u0161e jde o to vytvo\u0159it d\u00edt\u011bti ur\u010dit\u00fd komfort. Bu\u010f mu pomoci, kdy\u017e se mu \u00fapln\u011b neda\u0159\u00ed, co\u017e je v&nbsp;po\u0159\u00e1dku, nebo mu trochu \u201eum\u00e9st\u201c cestu, aby z\u00edskalo n\u011bjak\u00e9 potvrzen\u00ed, a t\u00edm p\u00e1dem bylo ve \u0161kole \u201eh\u00e1jen\u00e9\u201c &#8211; s&nbsp;t\u00edm se setk\u00e1v\u00e1m dost \u010dasto. Rodi\u010de tak\u00e9 mnohem v\u00edce p\u0159em\u00fd\u0161lej\u00ed o \u0161koln\u00ed dr\u00e1ze sv\u00fdch d\u011bt\u00ed, d\u0159\u00edve d\u00edt\u011b prost\u011b nastoupilo do sp\u00e1dov\u00e9 z\u00e1kladn\u00ed \u0161koly, dnes se rodi\u010de sna\u017e\u00ed z\u00edskat pro d\u00edt\u011b to nejlep\u0161\u00ed. To je pochopiteln\u00e9, ale z&nbsp;m\u00e9ho pohledu to, co zvn\u011bj\u0161ku vypad\u00e1 jako to nejlep\u0161\u00ed, nemus\u00ed b\u00fdt nejlep\u0161\u00ed pro konkr\u00e9tn\u00ed d\u00edt\u011b a pro jeho vnit\u0159n\u00ed pot\u0159eby. N\u011bkdy se moc vyb\u00edr\u00e1, a\u017e se p\u0159ebere. Setk\u00e1v\u00e1m se s&nbsp;t\u00edm, \u017ee d\u00edt\u011b m\u011bn\u00ed \u0161kolu t\u0159eba i 3x nebo 4x b\u011bhem \u0161koln\u00ed doch\u00e1zky, a to u\u017e se m\u016f\u017ee negativn\u011b projevit. &nbsp; Jak vyb\u00edrat \u0161kolu\u2026 Jak\u00e9 jsou p\u0159\u00ed\u010diny? Jde o to, \u017ee rodi\u010de cht\u011bj\u00ed pro sv\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b to nejlep\u0161\u00ed, ale vlastn\u011b nev\u011bd\u00ed, co to je?Nab\u00eddka \u0161kol je pestr\u00e1 a po\u017eadavky rodi\u010d\u016f se li\u0161\u00ed \u2013 n\u011bkte\u0159\u00ed o\u010dek\u00e1vaj\u00ed od d\u00edt\u011bte v\u00fdkon a od \u0161koly strukturu, co\u017e je st\u00e1le spojeno sp\u00ed\u0161 s&nbsp;klasick\u00fdm \u0161kolstv\u00edm, jin\u00ed rodi\u010de naopak t\u00edhnou k&nbsp;n\u011bjak\u00e9 alternativ\u011b. T\u0159eba neradi vzpom\u00ednaj\u00ed na svou \u0161koln\u00ed doch\u00e1zku, kde za\u017eili stres ze zkou\u0161en\u00ed nebo \u0161ikanu, a cht\u011bj\u00ed od toho sv\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b uchr\u00e1nit. \u010casto na d\u00edt\u011b p\u0159en\u00e1\u0161ej\u00ed sv\u016fj strach z&nbsp;toho, co sami za\u017eili. &nbsp;&nbsp; \u0158\u00edk\u00e1te, \u017ee to nejlep\u0161\u00ed nemus\u00ed b\u00fdt nejlep\u0161\u00ed pro dan\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b. M\u016f\u017eete to bl\u00ed\u017ee vysv\u011btlit? &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Uvedu p\u0159\u00edklad ze sv\u00e9 praxe. Setkala jsem se s chlapcem, jeho\u017e rodi\u010de si pro n\u011bj p\u0159\u00e1li co nejsvobodn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed vzd\u011bl\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed, bez hodnocen\u00ed a zn\u00e1mek, s&nbsp;partnersk\u00fdm p\u0159\u00edstupem. Vybrali \u0161kolu velmi partnersky nastavenou, ale chlapec m\u011bl probl\u00e9my s&nbsp;hyperaktivitou, a ta volnost ve \u0161kole pro n\u011bj byla p\u0159\u00edli\u0161n\u00e1. V\u016fbec se nenau\u010dil pracovat se sv\u00fdm \u010dasem, neum\u011bl se u\u010dit ani si nic zorganizovat, prost\u011b se&nbsp;v&nbsp;t\u00e9 bezb\u0159eh\u00e9 volnosti naprosto ztr\u00e1cel. Hyperaktivita se stup\u0148ovala, bylo jasn\u00e9, \u017ee pot\u0159ebuje \u0159\u00e1d a n\u011bjak\u00e9 mantinely, v&nbsp;nich\u017e se bude um\u011bt pohybovat, proto\u017ee jeho zmatek vy\u00fastil v&nbsp;probl\u00e9mov\u00e9 chov\u00e1n\u00ed. Kdy\u017e dosp\u011bl\u00fd sv\u011bt d\u00edt\u011bti nenastavuje mantinely, d\u00edt\u011b si je nastav\u00ed samo a za\u010dne dosp\u011bl\u00fd sv\u011bt organizovat, proto\u017ee c\u00edt\u00ed jeho slabost. Bere odpov\u011bdnost na sebe a je t\u00edm zat\u00ed\u017een\u00e9 a frustrovan\u00e9. \u010casto n\u00e1sleduje zhor\u0161en\u00e9 chov\u00e1n\u00ed \u2013 d\u00edt\u011b tak vol\u00e1 po v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed struktu\u0159e a jistot\u011b. Nav\u00edc se p\u0159i srovn\u00e1n\u00ed s vrstevn\u00edky mnohdy uk\u00e1\u017ee, \u017ee oni jsou u\u017e ve v\u00fduce mnohem d\u00e1l, a to nen\u00ed dobr\u00e9 pro sebev\u011bdom\u00ed d\u00edt\u011bte. Pro n\u011bkter\u00e9 d\u011bti voln\u00e9 vzd\u011bl\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed nen\u00ed vhodn\u00e9 a n\u011bkdy b\u00fdv\u00e1 obt\u00ed\u017en\u00e9 to rodi\u010d\u016fm vysv\u011btlit. Rodi\u010de sly\u0161\u00ed na to, \u017ee u\u010ditel bude pr\u016fvodcem, nebudou zn\u00e1mky a testy, d\u00edt\u011b si bude vyb\u00edrat, co se bude u\u010dit\u2026 Jen\u017ee d\u00edt\u011b se nejd\u0159\u00edv pot\u0159ebuje nau\u010dit u\u010dit, kdy\u017e neum\u00ed \u010d\u00edst ani ps\u00e1t, t\u011b\u017eko si samo zorganizuje sv\u016fj u\u010debn\u00ed \u010das. V\u0161echno se pak ot\u00e1\u010d\u00ed proti n\u011bmu, a to byl pr\u00e1v\u011b p\u0159\u00edpad tohoto chlapce. Rodi\u010de se nakonec rozhodli, \u017ee ho daj\u00ed do \u0161koly jin\u00e9ho typu a mysl\u00edm, \u017ee to u n\u011bj povede ke zklidn\u011bn\u00ed. Pro\u010d je pro n\u011bkter\u00e9 rodi\u010de tak l\u00e1kav\u00e1 p\u0159edstava voln\u00e9 \u0161koly? Je to reakce na p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 \u201ese\u0161n\u011brovan\u00e9\u201c b\u011b\u017en\u00e9 \u0161kolstv\u00ed?Asi ano, proto\u017ee na\u0161e \u0161kolstv\u00ed to \u201ese\u0161n\u011brov\u00e1n\u00ed\u201c v&nbsp;sob\u011b m\u011blo a v&nbsp;ur\u010dit\u00fdch aspektech st\u00e1le m\u00e1. Objevuj\u00ed se snahy o jeho prom\u011bnu, mnoz\u00ed pedagogov\u00e9 jsou velmi inovativn\u00ed, ale st\u00e1le jde sp\u00ed\u0161e o jednotlivce a je t\u0159eba m\u011bnit cel\u00fd syst\u00e9m. Mo\u017enost, \u017ee d\u011bti budou u\u010diteli tykat, mo\u017en\u00e1 n\u011bkoho p\u0159ekvap\u00ed, ale podle mne to nen\u00ed probl\u00e9m, stejn\u011b jako nen\u00ed probl\u00e9m, kdy\u017e d\u011bti nejsou hodnoceny zn\u00e1mkami. D\u011bti zn\u00e1mky nepot\u0159ebuj\u00ed, ve \u0161kol\u00e1ch je v\u011bt\u0161inou v\u00edce cht\u011bj\u00ed rodi\u010de \u2013 p\u0159ej\u00ed si, aby d\u011bti dom\u016f nosily jedni\u010dky. Zn\u00e1mkov\u00e1n\u00ed je sp\u00ed\u0161 vn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed donucovac\u00ed prost\u0159edek, d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e1 je vnit\u0159n\u00ed motivace d\u00edt\u011bte k&nbsp;u\u010den\u00ed. Ve \u0161kol\u00e1ch mn\u011b chyb\u00ed v\u00edc voln\u00e9ho pohybu p\u0159i u\u010den\u00ed&#8230; &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":4912,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[23,1,31,20,22,36],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-4862","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-deti","category-medunka","category-pro-inspiraci","category-psychologie","category-rodina","category-rozhovory"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4862","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4862"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4862\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4864,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4862\/revisions\/4864"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4912"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4862"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4862"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4862"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}