{"id":1381,"date":"2019-07-06T06:00:18","date_gmt":"2019-07-06T06:00:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/?p=1381"},"modified":"2019-07-04T13:21:13","modified_gmt":"2019-07-04T13:21:13","slug":"z-cervencove-medunky-kdo-se-boji-dovolene","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/2019\/07\/06\/z-cervencove-medunky-kdo-se-boji-dovolene\/","title":{"rendered":"Z \u010dervencov\u00e9 Medu\u0148ky: Kdo se boj\u00ed dovolen\u00e9"},"content":{"rendered":"

Z aktu\u00e1ln\u00edho \u010dervencov\u00e9ho \u010d\u00edsla Medu\u0148ky, kter\u00e9 je ke koupi na st\u00e1nc\u00edch PNS a v n\u011bkter\u00fdch obchodech, v<\/strong>yb\u00edr\u00e1me uk\u00e1zku z \u010dl\u00e1nku\u00a0 terapeutky Jarmily Skopalov\u00e9<\/strong>. <\/em>Autorka vych\u00e1z\u00ed ze sv\u00fdch zku\u0161enost\u00ed z terapeutick\u00e9 praxe, sou\u010d\u00e1st\u00ed \u010dl\u00e1nku je tak\u00e9 popis cvi\u010den\u00ed hakomi, kter\u00e9 napom\u00e1h\u00e1 v\u011bdom\u00e9mu pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed p\u0159\u00edtomnosti.\u00a0 \u00a0
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Ka\u017ed\u00fd rok na ja\u0159e se u m\u00fdch klient\u016f za\u010dne objevovat t\u00e9ma dovolen\u00fdch<\/strong>. N\u011bkdo \u0159e\u0161\u00ed pr\u00e1zdniny vzhledem ke st\u0159\u00eddav\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010di o d\u011bti, jin\u00fd hled\u00e1 do\u010dasnou p\u00e9\u010di o \u010dleny rodiny, kte\u0159\u00ed nejsou sob\u011bsta\u010dn\u00ed, ale i o seniory, psy \u010di kr\u00e1l\u00edky a slepice. Ano, \u010dasto i v\u00a0tomto po\u0159ad\u00ed, proto\u017ee kdy\u017e m\u00e1te n\u011bkoho nebo n\u011bco r\u00e1di, l\u00e1ska nehled\u00ed na po\u0159ad\u00ed d\u016fle\u017eitosti.<\/p>\n

A n\u011bkdo na dovolenou rad\u011bji nejede\u2026
\n<\/strong>To nemus\u00ed nutn\u011b znamenat, \u017ee nena\u0161el nikoho, kdo by se po dobu jeho nep\u0159\u00edtomnosti postaral o d\u011bti, seniory nebo o hospod\u00e1\u0159stv\u00ed. S\u00a0mnoha klienty v\u00a0t\u011bchto chv\u00edl\u00edch dost\u00e1v\u00e1me\u00a0 na dal\u0161\u00ed \u00farove\u0148 pomysln\u00e9 spir\u00e1ly: \u0159e\u0161\u00edme stejn\u00fd probl\u00e9m jako na za\u010d\u00e1tku na\u0161ich konzultac\u00ed, jen se projevuje v\u00a0jin\u00e9 situaci.
\nPokud s\u00a0klientkou \u0159e\u0161\u00edme jej\u00ed z\u00e1vislost na d\u011btech \u010di na rodi\u010d\u00edch, pr\u00e1v\u011b dovolen\u00e1 je zkou\u0161kou: je klientka schopna sv\u011b\u0159it p\u00e9\u010di o n\u011b n\u011bkomu ciz\u00edmu (\u010dasto mnohem l\u00e9pe kvalifikovan\u00e9mu), nebo se znovu vr\u00e1t\u00ed panika z\u00a0odlou\u010den\u00ed?
\nRozveden\u00ed rodi\u010de mal\u00fdch d\u011bt\u00ed se v\u011bt\u0161inou dok\u00e1\u017eou domluvit na b\u011b\u017en\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010di b\u011bhem \u0161koln\u00edho roku. \u0158e\u0161en\u00ed dovolen\u00e9 vzhledem k\u00a0pr\u00e1ci \u010di nov\u00fdm partner\u016fm je u\u017e \u201eprov\u011brkou vy\u0161\u0161\u00edho stupn\u011b\u201c. Mnoh\u00fd man\u017eel se t\u011b\u0161\u00ed, \u017ee \u201eta jeho\u201c odjede s\u00a0kamar\u00e1dkami na fitness pobyt. Status slam\u011bn\u00e9ho vdovce je velk\u00fdm l\u00e1kadlem ka\u017ed\u00e9ho l\u00e9ta. Moudr\u00e1 man\u017eelka se nept\u00e1, zav\u0159e kufr a o\u010di, opust\u00ed domov a pro jistotu se neoto\u010d\u00ed, aby nedopadla jako Lotova \u017eena. (Ta se oto\u010dila a zkamen\u011bla z\u00a0toho, co vid\u011bla\u2026) Dovolen\u00e1 tedy prov\u011b\u0159\u00ed vztahy s\u00a0t\u011bmi, s\u00a0nimi\u017e tr\u00e1v\u00edte ka\u017ed\u00fd den, a cel\u00fd \u017eivot.<\/p>\n

\u00a0A kdy\u017e u\u017e jede, tak rad\u011bji s\u00e1m
\n<\/strong>Dovolen\u00e9, kter\u00e9 se stanou oddychem od partnersk\u00e9ho \u017eivota, doporu\u010duji. Nejen proto, abychom si odpo\u010dinuli od energi\u00ed, kter\u00e9 mus\u00edme ka\u017ed\u00fd den zpracov\u00e1vat v\u00a0p\u00e1ru. Ale \u2013 a to hlavn\u011b \u2013 ka\u017ed\u00fd \u010dlov\u011bk se pot\u0159ebuje pravideln\u011b soust\u0159edit s\u00e1m na sebe. Zjistit, co se s\u00a0n\u00edm v\u00a0\u017eivot\u011b stalo, kam se posunul. Jestli je\u0161t\u011b po\u0159\u00e1d vyjede kopec na kole, nebo u\u017e pot\u0159ebuje kolo s\u00a0elektrick\u00fdm pohonem. Jestli po\u0159\u00e1d je\u0161t\u011b zvl\u00e1dne profl\u00e1movat noc. Jestli je\u0161t\u011b m\u016f\u017ee j\u00edst ostr\u00e9 j\u00eddlo, jestli se mu n\u00e1hodou nesp\u00ed l\u00e9pe v\u00a0posteli samotn\u00e9mu a tak d\u00e1l. A to jsou z\u00e1le\u017eitosti, na kter\u00e9 je dobr\u00e9 m\u00edt \u010das a klid.<\/p>\n

A pak to za\u010dne: o samot\u011b stejn\u011b jako v\u00a0p\u00e1ru
\n<\/strong>V\u00a0klidu je t\u0159eba po\u010d\u00edtat s\u00a0t\u00edm, \u017ee kdy\u017e nejsou po ruce ka\u017edodenn\u00ed starosti, odv\u00e1d\u011bj\u00edc\u00ed na\u0161i pozornost od probl\u00e9m\u016f partnersk\u00fdch \u010di osobn\u00edch, na povrch vyplavou p\u0159esn\u011b ty disharmonie, kter\u00e9 se sna\u017e\u00edme jindy nevid\u011bt.
\nV\u00a0p\u00e1ru se lid\u00e9 za\u010dnou je\u0161t\u011b v\u00edc soust\u0159edit jeden na druh\u00e9ho, a co h\u016f\u0159, za\u010dnou si vysv\u011btlovat po sv\u00e9m pohledy \u010di nar\u00e1\u017eky. Pro \u017eeny je bolestiv\u00e9 svl\u00e9knout se do plavek, mu\u017e\u016fm je to \u010dasto jedno, ale zato se r\u00e1di oto\u010d\u00ed po plavk\u00e1ch jin\u00fdch. Je to sice p\u0159\u00edklad zna\u010dn\u011b stereotypn\u00ed, ale z\u00e1rove\u0148 p\u0159\u00edmo archetyp\u00e1ln\u00ed.
\nMnoho m\u00fdch klient\u016f u\u017e v\u00ed, \u017ee na dovolenou se \u010dlov\u011bk mus\u00ed um\u011bt p\u0159ipravit. Je to toti\u017e \u010das, kdy se m\u016f\u017eeme u\u010dit \u201ebyt\u00ed v\u00a0p\u0159\u00edtomn\u00e9m okam\u017eiku\u201c, je to jedine\u010dn\u00e1 mo\u017enost ne\u0159e\u0161it minulost a nepl\u00e1novat budoucnost. Byt\u00ed v\u00a0p\u0159\u00edtomn\u00e9m okam\u017eiku je jedin\u00e1 chv\u00edle v\u00a0\u017eivot\u011b, kdy opravdu \u017eijeme, kdy spojujeme minulost s\u00a0t\u00edm, co je, a tvo\u0159\u00edme budoucnost. Kdy\u017e jdete do mo\u0159e, m\u00e1te pr\u00e1v\u011b ten jedin\u00fd krok na to rozhodnout se, zda do mo\u0159e vstoup\u00edte, nebo se vr\u00e1t\u00edte na leh\u00e1tko. Je to ten jedin\u00fd krok a jeho \u010dist\u00e9 pro\u017eit\u00ed, kter\u00e9 v\u00e1m umo\u017en\u00ed uv\u011bdomit si, \u017ee v\u00a0mo\u0159i t\u0159eba mohou b\u00fdt \u017eahav\u00e9 med\u00fazy. Kdy\u017e v\u00a0tu chv\u00edli budete vzpom\u00ednat na to, zda va\u0161\u00ed babi\u010dce dala pe\u010dovatelka dnes r\u00e1no pr\u00e1\u0161ky nebo pl\u00e1novat, \u017ee mus\u00edte ve\u010der zavolat sousedce, aby dala vodu slepic\u00edm, m\u016f\u017ee to pro v\u00e1s m\u00edt nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9 n\u00e1sledky.<\/p>\n

Dovolen\u00e1 v\u00ed\u0159\u00ed bahno u dna
\n<\/strong>Kdy\u017e \u010dlov\u011bk zvykl\u00fd na pracovn\u00ed vyp\u011bt\u00ed najednou zvoln\u00ed a nav\u00edc odjede mimo sv\u00e9 obvykl\u00e9 prost\u0159ed\u00ed, stane se n\u011bco, na co n\u00e1s nikdo nep\u0159ipravuje: prudce se zm\u011bn\u00ed rytmus \u017eivota, ale mysl jede ve star\u00fdch kolej\u00edch. Pot\u0159ebuje impulsy, probl\u00e9my, rychlost sv\u00fdch vlastn\u00edch my\u0161lenkov\u00fdch proces\u016f. A kdy\u017e k\u00a0tomu nem\u00e1 k dispozici pracovn\u00ed projekty, kolegy a \u0161\u00e9fy, za\u010dnete se hrabat v\u00a0dal\u0161\u00edch \u0161upl\u00edc\u00edch. Vytahuje na sv\u011btlo nezpracovan\u00e9 emoce, traumata, vzpom\u00ednky, k\u0159ivdy, touhy a tak podobn\u011b…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Z aktu\u00e1ln\u00edho \u010dervencov\u00e9ho \u010d\u00edsla Medu\u0148ky, kter\u00e9 je ke koupi na st\u00e1nc\u00edch PNS a v n\u011bkter\u00fdch obchodech, vyb\u00edr\u00e1me uk\u00e1zku z \u010dl\u00e1nku\u00a0 terapeutky Jarmily Skopalov\u00e9. Autorka vych\u00e1z\u00ed ze sv\u00fdch zku\u0161enost\u00ed z terapeutick\u00e9 praxe, sou\u010d\u00e1st\u00ed \u010dl\u00e1nku je tak\u00e9 popis cvi\u010den\u00ed hakomi, kter\u00e9 napom\u00e1h\u00e1 v\u011bdom\u00e9mu pro\u017e\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed p\u0159\u00edtomnosti.\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 Ka\u017ed\u00fd rok na ja\u0159e se u m\u00fdch klient\u016f za\u010dne objevovat t\u00e9ma dovolen\u00fdch. N\u011bkdo \u0159e\u0161\u00ed pr\u00e1zdniny vzhledem ke st\u0159\u00eddav\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010di o d\u011bti, jin\u00fd hled\u00e1 do\u010dasnou p\u00e9\u010di o \u010dleny rodiny, kte\u0159\u00ed nejsou sob\u011bsta\u010dn\u00ed, ale i o seniory, psy \u010di kr\u00e1l\u00edky a slepice. Ano, \u010dasto i v\u00a0tomto po\u0159ad\u00ed, proto\u017ee kdy\u017e m\u00e1te n\u011bkoho nebo n\u011bco r\u00e1di, l\u00e1ska nehled\u00ed na po\u0159ad\u00ed d\u016fle\u017eitosti. A n\u011bkdo na dovolenou rad\u011bji nejede\u2026 To nemus\u00ed nutn\u011b znamenat, \u017ee nena\u0161el nikoho, kdo by se po dobu jeho nep\u0159\u00edtomnosti postaral o d\u011bti, seniory nebo o hospod\u00e1\u0159stv\u00ed. S\u00a0mnoha klienty v\u00a0t\u011bchto chv\u00edl\u00edch dost\u00e1v\u00e1me\u00a0 na dal\u0161\u00ed \u00farove\u0148 pomysln\u00e9 spir\u00e1ly: \u0159e\u0161\u00edme stejn\u00fd probl\u00e9m jako na za\u010d\u00e1tku na\u0161ich konzultac\u00ed, jen se projevuje v\u00a0jin\u00e9 situaci. Pokud s\u00a0klientkou \u0159e\u0161\u00edme jej\u00ed z\u00e1vislost na d\u011btech \u010di na rodi\u010d\u00edch, pr\u00e1v\u011b dovolen\u00e1 je zkou\u0161kou: je klientka schopna sv\u011b\u0159it p\u00e9\u010di o n\u011b n\u011bkomu ciz\u00edmu (\u010dasto mnohem l\u00e9pe kvalifikovan\u00e9mu), nebo se znovu vr\u00e1t\u00ed panika z\u00a0odlou\u010den\u00ed? Rozveden\u00ed rodi\u010de mal\u00fdch d\u011bt\u00ed se v\u011bt\u0161inou dok\u00e1\u017eou domluvit na b\u011b\u017en\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010di b\u011bhem \u0161koln\u00edho roku. \u0158e\u0161en\u00ed dovolen\u00e9 vzhledem k\u00a0pr\u00e1ci \u010di nov\u00fdm partner\u016fm je u\u017e \u201eprov\u011brkou vy\u0161\u0161\u00edho stupn\u011b\u201c. Mnoh\u00fd man\u017eel se t\u011b\u0161\u00ed, \u017ee \u201eta jeho\u201c odjede s\u00a0kamar\u00e1dkami na fitness pobyt. Status slam\u011bn\u00e9ho vdovce je velk\u00fdm l\u00e1kadlem ka\u017ed\u00e9ho l\u00e9ta. Moudr\u00e1 man\u017eelka se nept\u00e1, zav\u0159e kufr a o\u010di, opust\u00ed domov a pro jistotu se neoto\u010d\u00ed, aby nedopadla jako Lotova \u017eena. (Ta se oto\u010dila a zkamen\u011bla z\u00a0toho, co vid\u011bla\u2026) Dovolen\u00e1 tedy prov\u011b\u0159\u00ed vztahy s\u00a0t\u011bmi, s\u00a0nimi\u017e tr\u00e1v\u00edte ka\u017ed\u00fd den, a cel\u00fd \u017eivot. \u00a0A kdy\u017e u\u017e jede, tak rad\u011bji s\u00e1m Dovolen\u00e9, kter\u00e9 se stanou oddychem od partnersk\u00e9ho \u017eivota, doporu\u010duji. Nejen proto, abychom si odpo\u010dinuli od energi\u00ed, kter\u00e9 mus\u00edme ka\u017ed\u00fd den zpracov\u00e1vat v\u00a0p\u00e1ru. Ale \u2013 a to hlavn\u011b \u2013 ka\u017ed\u00fd \u010dlov\u011bk se pot\u0159ebuje pravideln\u011b soust\u0159edit s\u00e1m na sebe. Zjistit, co se s\u00a0n\u00edm v\u00a0\u017eivot\u011b stalo, kam se posunul. Jestli je\u0161t\u011b po\u0159\u00e1d vyjede kopec na kole, nebo u\u017e pot\u0159ebuje kolo s\u00a0elektrick\u00fdm pohonem. Jestli po\u0159\u00e1d je\u0161t\u011b zvl\u00e1dne profl\u00e1movat noc. Jestli je\u0161t\u011b m\u016f\u017ee j\u00edst ostr\u00e9 j\u00eddlo, jestli se mu n\u00e1hodou nesp\u00ed l\u00e9pe v\u00a0posteli samotn\u00e9mu a tak d\u00e1l. A to jsou z\u00e1le\u017eitosti, na kter\u00e9 je dobr\u00e9 m\u00edt \u010das a klid. A pak to za\u010dne: o samot\u011b stejn\u011b jako v\u00a0p\u00e1ru V\u00a0klidu je t\u0159eba po\u010d\u00edtat s\u00a0t\u00edm, \u017ee kdy\u017e nejsou po ruce ka\u017edodenn\u00ed starosti, odv\u00e1d\u011bj\u00edc\u00ed na\u0161i pozornost od probl\u00e9m\u016f partnersk\u00fdch \u010di osobn\u00edch, na povrch vyplavou p\u0159esn\u011b ty disharmonie, kter\u00e9 se sna\u017e\u00edme jindy nevid\u011bt. V\u00a0p\u00e1ru se lid\u00e9 za\u010dnou je\u0161t\u011b v\u00edc soust\u0159edit jeden na druh\u00e9ho, a co h\u016f\u0159, za\u010dnou si vysv\u011btlovat po sv\u00e9m pohledy \u010di nar\u00e1\u017eky. Pro \u017eeny je bolestiv\u00e9 svl\u00e9knout se do plavek, mu\u017e\u016fm je to \u010dasto jedno, ale zato se r\u00e1di oto\u010d\u00ed po plavk\u00e1ch jin\u00fdch. Je to sice p\u0159\u00edklad zna\u010dn\u011b stereotypn\u00ed, ale z\u00e1rove\u0148 p\u0159\u00edmo archetyp\u00e1ln\u00ed. Mnoho m\u00fdch klient\u016f u\u017e v\u00ed, \u017ee na dovolenou se \u010dlov\u011bk mus\u00ed um\u011bt p\u0159ipravit. Je to toti\u017e \u010das, kdy se m\u016f\u017eeme u\u010dit \u201ebyt\u00ed v\u00a0p\u0159\u00edtomn\u00e9m okam\u017eiku\u201c, je to jedine\u010dn\u00e1 mo\u017enost ne\u0159e\u0161it minulost a nepl\u00e1novat budoucnost. Byt\u00ed v\u00a0p\u0159\u00edtomn\u00e9m okam\u017eiku je jedin\u00e1 chv\u00edle v\u00a0\u017eivot\u011b, kdy opravdu \u017eijeme, kdy spojujeme minulost s\u00a0t\u00edm, co je, a tvo\u0159\u00edme budoucnost. Kdy\u017e jdete do mo\u0159e, m\u00e1te pr\u00e1v\u011b ten jedin\u00fd krok na to rozhodnout se, zda do mo\u0159e vstoup\u00edte, nebo se vr\u00e1t\u00edte na leh\u00e1tko. Je to ten jedin\u00fd krok a jeho \u010dist\u00e9 pro\u017eit\u00ed, kter\u00e9 v\u00e1m umo\u017en\u00ed uv\u011bdomit si, \u017ee v\u00a0mo\u0159i t\u0159eba mohou b\u00fdt \u017eahav\u00e9 med\u00fazy. Kdy\u017e v\u00a0tu chv\u00edli budete vzpom\u00ednat na to, zda va\u0161\u00ed babi\u010dce dala pe\u010dovatelka dnes r\u00e1no pr\u00e1\u0161ky nebo pl\u00e1novat, \u017ee mus\u00edte ve\u010der zavolat sousedce, aby dala vodu slepic\u00edm, m\u016f\u017ee to pro v\u00e1s m\u00edt nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9 n\u00e1sledky. Dovolen\u00e1 v\u00ed\u0159\u00ed bahno u dna Kdy\u017e \u010dlov\u011bk zvykl\u00fd na pracovn\u00ed vyp\u011bt\u00ed najednou zvoln\u00ed a nav\u00edc odjede mimo sv\u00e9 obvykl\u00e9 prost\u0159ed\u00ed, stane se n\u011bco, na co n\u00e1s nikdo nep\u0159ipravuje: prudce se zm\u011bn\u00ed rytmus \u017eivota, ale mysl jede ve star\u00fdch kolej\u00edch. Pot\u0159ebuje impulsy, probl\u00e9my, rychlost sv\u00fdch vlastn\u00edch my\u0161lenkov\u00fdch proces\u016f. A kdy\u017e k\u00a0tomu nem\u00e1 k dispozici pracovn\u00ed projekty, kolegy a \u0161\u00e9fy, za\u010dnete se hrabat v\u00a0dal\u0161\u00edch \u0161upl\u00edc\u00edch. 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