{"id":11757,"date":"2025-10-08T06:00:00","date_gmt":"2025-10-08T06:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/?p=11757"},"modified":"2025-10-07T11:14:18","modified_gmt":"2025-10-07T11:14:18","slug":"z-rijnove-medunky-poskozeny-matersky-princip-nemoc-nasi-doby","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/2025\/10\/08\/z-rijnove-medunky-poskozeny-matersky-princip-nemoc-nasi-doby\/","title":{"rendered":"Z \u0159\u00edjnov\u00e9 Medu\u0148ky: Po\u0161kozen\u00fd mate\u0159sk\u00fd princip \u2013 nemoc na\u0161\u00ed doby"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Z \u0159\u00edjnov\u00e9 Medu\u0148ky, <\/strong>kter\u00e1 je st\u00e1le dostupn\u00e1 v klasick\u00e9 „pap\u00edrov\u00e9“ i elektronick\u00e9 podob\u011b – emedunka.cz<\/strong><\/a> vyb\u00edr\u00e1me \u010dl\u00e1nek z hlavn\u00edho t\u00e9matu v\u011bnovan\u00e9ho \u017dEN\u00c1M<\/strong>. Mgr. Marie Plochov\u00e1 Hl\u00e1vkov\u00e1,Ph.D.<\/strong>, astropsycholo\u017eka a terapeutka, se v n\u011bm v\u011bnuje d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9mu fenom\u00e9nu sou\u010dasn\u00e9 doby a vych\u00e1z\u00ed ze sv\u00fdch osobn\u00edch i profesn\u00edch zku\u0161enost\u00ed.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Poj\u010fme se zamyslet nad naprosto z\u00e1sadn\u00edm \u017eivotn\u00edm principem, kter\u00fd formuje na\u0161e \u017eivoty. T\u00edm je mate\u0159sk\u00fd princip. Konkr\u00e9tn\u011b to, jak\u00fd vztah s n\u00e1mi vybudovala na\u0161e matka, jak na n\u00e1s od prenat\u00e1ln\u00edho obdob\u00ed p\u016fsobila a zda n\u00e1m poskytla sv\u00e9 pe\u010duj\u00edc\u00ed, bezpodm\u00edne\u010dn\u011b p\u0159ij\u00edmaj\u00edc\u00ed a miluj\u00edc\u00ed energie. D\u00e1le do jak\u00e9 m\u00edry jsme s n\u00ed za\u017eili empatick\u00e9 propojen\u00ed, fyzickou bl\u00edzkost a pocit bezpe\u010d\u00ed v jej\u00ed n\u00e1ru\u010di. V\u00fdsledkem pak je, zda jsme nebo nejsme emocion\u00e1ln\u011b a fyzicky vy\u017eiven\u00ed, jakou v sob\u011b m\u00e1me m\u00edru psychick\u00e9 stability, pocitu jistoty a pocitu bezpe\u010d\u00ed.

Pochopiteln\u011b i otcov\u00e9 si v sob\u011b nesou mate\u0159sk\u00fd princip, kter\u00fd z\u00edskali od sv\u00e9 matky. Lze tedy obecn\u011b hovo\u0159it o tom, \u017ee mate\u0159sk\u00fd princip na n\u00e1s p\u016fsob\u00ed jak p\u0159es osobu matky, tak i p\u0159es osobu otce. Ze sv\u00e9 terapeutick\u00e9 praxe zn\u00e1m i p\u0159\u00edpady, kdy nefunk\u010dn\u00ed matku nahrazoval otec, kter\u00fd disponoval silnou mate\u0159skou energi\u00ed. Nicm\u00e9n\u011b fyzick\u00e1 osoba matky, kter\u00e1 nos\u00ed d\u00edt\u011b dev\u011bt m\u011bs\u00edc\u016f ve sv\u00e9m t\u011ble a je \u00fazce fyzicky propojena s d\u00edt\u011btem i po jeho narozen\u00ed p\u0159es kojen\u00ed a dal\u0161\u00ed fyzick\u00e9 projevy, je dle m\u00fdch zku\u0161enost\u00ed nenahraditeln\u00e1.
O mate\u0159sk\u00e9m principu toho bylo ji\u017e mnoho naps\u00e1no a lid\u00e9, kte\u0159\u00ed za\u017eili n\u011bjak\u00fd deficit v mate\u0159sk\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010di, pak mnohdy v dosp\u011blosti poci\u0165uj\u00ed r\u016fzn\u00e9 pot\u00ed\u017ee, psychick\u00e9 nebo i fyzick\u00e9. Onen prvotn\u00ed deficit se toti\u017e v dosp\u011blosti ned\u00e1 \u201eokecat\u201c ani p\u0159ed n\u00edm ut\u00e9ct, ned\u00e1 se ani donekone\u010dna zapl\u00e1c\u00e1vat r\u016fzn\u00fdmi z\u00e1vislostmi \u010di vztahov\u00fdmi kompenzacemi. Zkr\u00e1tka pokud jsme neza\u017eili onu z\u00e1zra\u010dnou l\u00e1skyplnou symbi\u00f3zu v prenat\u00e1ln\u00edm obdob\u00ed a dal\u0161\u00edm co nejv\u011bt\u0161\u00edm mno\u017estv\u00ed let po narozen\u00ed, neseme si v sob\u011b psychickou d\u00edru, kter\u00e9 my \u0159\u00edk\u00e1me \u201emate\u0159sk\u00e1 d\u00edra\u201c.
Mate\u0159sk\u00e1 d\u00edra pak ovliv\u0148uje dle na\u0161\u00ed zku\u0161enosti v\u0161echno, co d\u011bl\u00e1me a jak se c\u00edt\u00edme. <\/strong>Po\u010d\u00ednaje pochybnostmi o sob\u011b a n\u00edzkou sebehodnotou, chyb\u011bj\u00edc\u00ed d\u016fv\u011brou ve sv\u011bt, ale i chyb\u011bj\u00edc\u00edm pocitem bezpe\u010d\u00ed a vyvinut\u00edm \u00fazkostn\u00e9ho nervov\u00e9ho syst\u00e9mu, nebo naopak sklon\u016fm k dominanci a manipulaci druh\u00fdmi lidmi. A to ani nehovo\u0159\u00edm o n\u00e1sledc\u00edch v partnersk\u00fdch vztaz\u00edch, kde se obzvl\u00e1\u0161t\u011b v\u00fdrazn\u011b projevuje, pokud byli partne\u0159i jako d\u011bti emocion\u00e1ln\u011b a fyzicky nevy\u017eiven\u00ed l\u00e1skyplnou empatickou mate\u0159skou p\u00e9\u010d\u00ed. \u0160k\u00e1la n\u00e1sledk\u016f b\u00fdv\u00e1 r\u016fznorod\u00e1 a s mnoha klienty, kte\u0159\u00ed n\u00e1s vyhledaj\u00ed ohledn\u011b sv\u00fdch aktu\u00e1ln\u00edch psychick\u00fdch pot\u00ed\u017e\u00ed nebo vztahov\u00fdch pot\u00ed\u017e\u00ed, se p\u0159\u00edm\u00fdm vrtem dost\u00e1v\u00e1me k tomu, \u017ee mate\u0159skou symbi\u00f3zu a empatick\u00e9 propojen\u00ed v d\u011btstv\u00ed p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 neza\u017eili.
V tomto \u010dl\u00e1nku se ov\u0161em chci zam\u011b\u0159it na aktu\u00e1ln\u00ed situaci v mate\u0159sk\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010di, tak jak ji vn\u00edm\u00e1m v re\u00e1ln\u00e9 praxi, nebo\u0165 jsem nyn\u00ed se synem na \u201erodi\u010dovsk\u00e9 dovolen\u00e9\u201c. Poznatky, z\u00edskan\u00e9 terapeutickou prac\u00ed s klienty, si tak nyn\u00ed roz\u0161i\u0159uji o vlastn\u00ed z\u00e1\u017eitky a re\u00e1ln\u00fd pohled na \u017eeny\/matky, kter\u00e9 se dennodenn\u011b staraj\u00ed o mal\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b.
To, co dle sv\u00fdch mate\u0159sk\u00fdch zku\u0161enost\u00ed pova\u017euji za naprosto kl\u00ed\u010dov\u00e9, je poskytnout d\u00edt\u011bti z\u00e1\u017eitek
 \u201ebyt\u00ed s n\u00edm\u201c.<\/strong> Jsou to v\u0161echny ty zd\u00e1nliv\u011b nekone\u010dn\u00e9 hodiny, kdy \u017eena v ide\u00e1ln\u00edm p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b koj\u00ed sv\u00e9 miminko nebo batole a prost\u011b JE s n\u00edm a VN\u00cdM\u00c1 ho v onom poh\u00e1dkov\u00e9m bez\u010das\u00ed – v denn\u00ed rutin\u011b j\u00eddla, p\u0159ebalov\u00e1n\u00ed, spink\u00e1n\u00ed, v t\u011bch hodin\u00e1ch a hodin\u00e1ch fyzick\u00e9 bl\u00edzkosti a n\u011b\u017en\u00e9ho kontaktu. V t\u011bchto zd\u00e1nliv\u011b nekone\u010dn\u00fdch hodin\u00e1ch, dnech, m\u011bs\u00edc\u00edch a roc\u00edch m\u016f\u017ee matka poskytnout d\u00edt\u011bti nejcenn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed z\u00e1klad do jeho \u017eivota. Ale pouze za p\u0159edpokladu, \u017ee je opravdu na d\u00edt\u011b napojena a dok\u00e1\u017ee d\u00edt\u011bti zprost\u0159edkovat ono \u010dist\u00e9 byt\u00ed, byt\u00ed bez v\u00fdkonu a sp\u011bchu, klidnou p\u0159ij\u00edmaj\u00edc\u00ed neohrani\u010denou p\u0159\u00edtomnost, prav\u00e9 bez\u010das\u00ed v oce\u00e1nu bl\u00edzkosti. Takov\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b m\u00e1 dle m\u00fdch zku\u0161enost\u00ed mo\u017enost b\u00fdt vy\u017eiven\u00e9 pocitem p\u0159ijet\u00ed a d\u016fv\u011brou v to, \u017ee pat\u0159\u00ed na sv\u011bt. V\u00ed, \u017ee m\u016f\u017ee \u201ejen tak b\u00fdt\u201c a c\u00edt\u00ed, \u017ee je cenn\u00e9 takov\u00e9, jak\u00e9 je.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jak dlouho by m\u011bla b\u00fdt matka d\u00edt\u011bti takto k dispozici?<\/strong>
Osobn\u011b jsem p\u0159esv\u011bd\u010dena, \u017ee nejm\u00e9n\u011b do t\u0159\u00ed let, ale ide\u00e1ln\u011b d\u00e9le. Samoz\u0159ejm\u011b nen\u00ed nutn\u00e9, aby byla matka s d\u00edt\u011btem t\u0159i roky nep\u0159etr\u017eit\u011b, je ur\u010dit\u011b \u017e\u00e1douc\u00ed, aby d\u00edt\u011b bylo v t\u00e9 dob\u011b ob\u010das samo i s otcem nebo jin\u00fdmi bl\u00edzk\u00fdmi osobami, kdy\u017e si matka pot\u0159ebuje n\u011bco za\u0159\u00eddit. A m\u00edra zapojen\u00ed otce m\u016f\u017ee samoz\u0159ejm\u011b s v\u011bkem d\u00edt\u011bte nar\u016fstat a je to \u017e\u00e1douc\u00ed. Ale jde o to, aby d\u00edt\u011b neza\u017e\u00edvalo v t\u00e9 dob\u011b pravidelnou a opakovanou separaci, kdy od n\u011bho matka psychicky i fyzicky prch\u00e1 za jin\u00fdmi z\u00e1jmy. Mnoho d\u011bt\u00ed v\u0161ak dle m\u00fdch zku\u0161enost\u00ed nem\u00e1 ani ve t\u0159ech letech nervov\u00fd syst\u00e9m dostate\u010dn\u011b zral\u00fd na to, aby za\u017e\u00edvalo opakovan\u00e9 odlou\u010den\u00ed od rodi\u010de a re\u00e1ln\u00fd v\u011bk, kdy je d\u00edt\u011b opravdu p\u0159ipraven\u00e9, je zcela individu\u00e1ln\u00ed. Z diskus\u00ed rodi\u010d\u016f, kte\u0159\u00ed sv\u00e9 d\u011bti nikam neodkl\u00e1daj\u00ed a cht\u011bj\u00ed b\u00fdt s nimi co nejd\u00e9le, pro mne vypl\u00fdv\u00e1, \u017ee pr\u016fm\u011brn\u011b tato zralost d\u00edt\u011bte p\u0159irozen\u011b p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed kolem p\u011bti let d\u00edt\u011bte, n\u011bkdy d\u0159\u00edve, n\u011bkdy d\u00e9le. To ostatn\u011b potvrzuje i skute\u010dnost, \u017ee mnoho na\u0161ich klient\u016f, kte\u0159\u00ed chodili do mate\u0159sk\u00e9 \u0161kolky od t\u0159\u00ed let, n\u00e1m referuj\u00ed, a\u017e ani ve t\u0159ech letech nebyli p\u0159ipraveni na pravideln\u00e9 odlou\u010den\u00ed od rodi\u010d\u016f a m\u011bli z pobytu ve \u0161kolce trauma, na kter\u00e9m pak dlouhodob\u011b terapeuticky pracujeme…  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Aktu\u00e1ln\u00ed situace v mate\u0159sk\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010di<\/strong>
Setk\u00e1v\u00e1m se moment\u00e1ln\u011b s r\u016fzn\u00fdmi matkami \u201ena rodi\u010dovsk\u00e9\u201ca popravd\u011b \u0159e\u010deno, v mnoha p\u0159\u00edpadech u nich nevid\u00edm touhu b\u00fdt s d\u00edt\u011btem co nejd\u00e9le, ale pr\u00e1v\u011b naopak. Mnoho matek m\u00e1 s t\u00edmto aspektem mate\u0159stv\u00ed probl\u00e9m a poskytnout d\u00edt\u011bti svou neohrani\u010denou p\u0159\u00edtomnost a opravdov\u00fd z\u00e1jem p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 neum\u011bj\u00ed, a n\u00e1sledn\u011b ani necht\u011bj\u00ed… <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cel\u00fd rozs\u00e1hl\u00fd \u010dl\u00e1nek najdete v \u0159\u00edjnov\u00e9 Medu\u0148ce…<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Z \u0159\u00edjnov\u00e9 Medu\u0148ky, kter\u00e1 je st\u00e1le dostupn\u00e1 v klasick\u00e9 „pap\u00edrov\u00e9“ i elektronick\u00e9 podob\u011b – emedunka.cz vyb\u00edr\u00e1me \u010dl\u00e1nek z hlavn\u00edho t\u00e9matu v\u011bnovan\u00e9ho \u017dEN\u00c1M. Mgr. Marie Plochov\u00e1 Hl\u00e1vkov\u00e1,Ph.D., astropsycholo\u017eka a terapeutka, se v n\u011bm v\u011bnuje d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9mu fenom\u00e9nu sou\u010dasn\u00e9 doby a vych\u00e1z\u00ed ze sv\u00fdch osobn\u00edch i profesn\u00edch zku\u0161enost\u00ed. Poj\u010fme se zamyslet nad naprosto z\u00e1sadn\u00edm \u017eivotn\u00edm principem, kter\u00fd formuje na\u0161e \u017eivoty. T\u00edm je mate\u0159sk\u00fd princip. Konkr\u00e9tn\u011b to, jak\u00fd vztah s n\u00e1mi vybudovala na\u0161e matka, jak na n\u00e1s od prenat\u00e1ln\u00edho obdob\u00ed p\u016fsobila a zda n\u00e1m poskytla sv\u00e9 pe\u010duj\u00edc\u00ed, bezpodm\u00edne\u010dn\u011b p\u0159ij\u00edmaj\u00edc\u00ed a miluj\u00edc\u00ed energie. D\u00e1le do jak\u00e9 m\u00edry jsme s n\u00ed za\u017eili empatick\u00e9 propojen\u00ed, fyzickou bl\u00edzkost a pocit bezpe\u010d\u00ed v jej\u00ed n\u00e1ru\u010di. V\u00fdsledkem pak je, zda jsme nebo nejsme emocion\u00e1ln\u011b a fyzicky vy\u017eiven\u00ed, jakou v sob\u011b m\u00e1me m\u00edru psychick\u00e9 stability, pocitu jistoty a pocitu bezpe\u010d\u00ed. Pochopiteln\u011b i otcov\u00e9 si v sob\u011b nesou mate\u0159sk\u00fd princip, kter\u00fd z\u00edskali od sv\u00e9 matky. Lze tedy obecn\u011b hovo\u0159it o tom, \u017ee mate\u0159sk\u00fd princip na n\u00e1s p\u016fsob\u00ed jak p\u0159es osobu matky, tak i p\u0159es osobu otce. Ze sv\u00e9 terapeutick\u00e9 praxe zn\u00e1m i p\u0159\u00edpady, kdy nefunk\u010dn\u00ed matku nahrazoval otec, kter\u00fd disponoval silnou mate\u0159skou energi\u00ed. Nicm\u00e9n\u011b fyzick\u00e1 osoba matky, kter\u00e1 nos\u00ed d\u00edt\u011b dev\u011bt m\u011bs\u00edc\u016f ve sv\u00e9m t\u011ble a je \u00fazce fyzicky propojena s d\u00edt\u011btem i po jeho narozen\u00ed p\u0159es kojen\u00ed a dal\u0161\u00ed fyzick\u00e9 projevy, je dle m\u00fdch zku\u0161enost\u00ed nenahraditeln\u00e1.O mate\u0159sk\u00e9m principu toho bylo ji\u017e mnoho naps\u00e1no a lid\u00e9, kte\u0159\u00ed za\u017eili n\u011bjak\u00fd deficit v mate\u0159sk\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010di, pak mnohdy v dosp\u011blosti poci\u0165uj\u00ed r\u016fzn\u00e9 pot\u00ed\u017ee, psychick\u00e9 nebo i fyzick\u00e9. Onen prvotn\u00ed deficit se toti\u017e v dosp\u011blosti ned\u00e1 \u201eokecat\u201c ani p\u0159ed n\u00edm ut\u00e9ct, ned\u00e1 se ani donekone\u010dna zapl\u00e1c\u00e1vat r\u016fzn\u00fdmi z\u00e1vislostmi \u010di vztahov\u00fdmi kompenzacemi. Zkr\u00e1tka pokud jsme neza\u017eili onu z\u00e1zra\u010dnou l\u00e1skyplnou symbi\u00f3zu v prenat\u00e1ln\u00edm obdob\u00ed a dal\u0161\u00edm co nejv\u011bt\u0161\u00edm mno\u017estv\u00ed let po narozen\u00ed, neseme si v sob\u011b psychickou d\u00edru, kter\u00e9 my \u0159\u00edk\u00e1me \u201emate\u0159sk\u00e1 d\u00edra\u201c.Mate\u0159sk\u00e1 d\u00edra pak ovliv\u0148uje dle na\u0161\u00ed zku\u0161enosti v\u0161echno, co d\u011bl\u00e1me a jak se c\u00edt\u00edme. Po\u010d\u00ednaje pochybnostmi o sob\u011b a n\u00edzkou sebehodnotou, chyb\u011bj\u00edc\u00ed d\u016fv\u011brou ve sv\u011bt, ale i chyb\u011bj\u00edc\u00edm pocitem bezpe\u010d\u00ed a vyvinut\u00edm \u00fazkostn\u00e9ho nervov\u00e9ho syst\u00e9mu, nebo naopak sklon\u016fm k dominanci a manipulaci druh\u00fdmi lidmi. A to ani nehovo\u0159\u00edm o n\u00e1sledc\u00edch v partnersk\u00fdch vztaz\u00edch, kde se obzvl\u00e1\u0161t\u011b v\u00fdrazn\u011b projevuje, pokud byli partne\u0159i jako d\u011bti emocion\u00e1ln\u011b a fyzicky nevy\u017eiven\u00ed l\u00e1skyplnou empatickou mate\u0159skou p\u00e9\u010d\u00ed. \u0160k\u00e1la n\u00e1sledk\u016f b\u00fdv\u00e1 r\u016fznorod\u00e1 a s mnoha klienty, kte\u0159\u00ed n\u00e1s vyhledaj\u00ed ohledn\u011b sv\u00fdch aktu\u00e1ln\u00edch psychick\u00fdch pot\u00ed\u017e\u00ed nebo vztahov\u00fdch pot\u00ed\u017e\u00ed, se p\u0159\u00edm\u00fdm vrtem dost\u00e1v\u00e1me k tomu, \u017ee mate\u0159skou symbi\u00f3zu a empatick\u00e9 propojen\u00ed v d\u011btstv\u00ed p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 neza\u017eili.V tomto \u010dl\u00e1nku se ov\u0161em chci zam\u011b\u0159it na aktu\u00e1ln\u00ed situaci v mate\u0159sk\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010di, tak jak ji vn\u00edm\u00e1m v re\u00e1ln\u00e9 praxi, nebo\u0165 jsem nyn\u00ed se synem na \u201erodi\u010dovsk\u00e9 dovolen\u00e9\u201c. Poznatky, z\u00edskan\u00e9 terapeutickou prac\u00ed s klienty, si tak nyn\u00ed roz\u0161i\u0159uji o vlastn\u00ed z\u00e1\u017eitky a re\u00e1ln\u00fd pohled na \u017eeny\/matky, kter\u00e9 se dennodenn\u011b staraj\u00ed o mal\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b.To, co dle sv\u00fdch mate\u0159sk\u00fdch zku\u0161enost\u00ed pova\u017euji za naprosto kl\u00ed\u010dov\u00e9, je poskytnout d\u00edt\u011bti z\u00e1\u017eitek \u201ebyt\u00ed s n\u00edm\u201c. Jsou to v\u0161echny ty zd\u00e1nliv\u011b nekone\u010dn\u00e9 hodiny, kdy \u017eena v ide\u00e1ln\u00edm p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b koj\u00ed sv\u00e9 miminko nebo batole a prost\u011b JE s n\u00edm a VN\u00cdM\u00c1 ho v onom poh\u00e1dkov\u00e9m bez\u010das\u00ed – v denn\u00ed rutin\u011b j\u00eddla, p\u0159ebalov\u00e1n\u00ed, spink\u00e1n\u00ed, v t\u011bch hodin\u00e1ch a hodin\u00e1ch fyzick\u00e9 bl\u00edzkosti a n\u011b\u017en\u00e9ho kontaktu. V t\u011bchto zd\u00e1nliv\u011b nekone\u010dn\u00fdch hodin\u00e1ch, dnech, m\u011bs\u00edc\u00edch a roc\u00edch m\u016f\u017ee matka poskytnout d\u00edt\u011bti nejcenn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed z\u00e1klad do jeho \u017eivota. Ale pouze za p\u0159edpokladu, \u017ee je opravdu na d\u00edt\u011b napojena a dok\u00e1\u017ee d\u00edt\u011bti zprost\u0159edkovat ono \u010dist\u00e9 byt\u00ed, byt\u00ed bez v\u00fdkonu a sp\u011bchu, klidnou p\u0159ij\u00edmaj\u00edc\u00ed neohrani\u010denou p\u0159\u00edtomnost, prav\u00e9 bez\u010das\u00ed v oce\u00e1nu bl\u00edzkosti. Takov\u00e9 d\u00edt\u011b m\u00e1 dle m\u00fdch zku\u0161enost\u00ed mo\u017enost b\u00fdt vy\u017eiven\u00e9 pocitem p\u0159ijet\u00ed a d\u016fv\u011brou v to, \u017ee pat\u0159\u00ed na sv\u011bt. V\u00ed, \u017ee m\u016f\u017ee \u201ejen tak b\u00fdt\u201c a c\u00edt\u00ed, \u017ee je cenn\u00e9 takov\u00e9, jak\u00e9 je. Jak dlouho by m\u011bla b\u00fdt matka d\u00edt\u011bti takto k dispozici? Osobn\u011b jsem p\u0159esv\u011bd\u010dena, \u017ee nejm\u00e9n\u011b do t\u0159\u00ed let, ale ide\u00e1ln\u011b d\u00e9le. Samoz\u0159ejm\u011b nen\u00ed nutn\u00e9, aby byla matka s d\u00edt\u011btem t\u0159i roky nep\u0159etr\u017eit\u011b, je ur\u010dit\u011b \u017e\u00e1douc\u00ed, aby d\u00edt\u011b bylo v t\u00e9 dob\u011b ob\u010das samo i s otcem nebo jin\u00fdmi bl\u00edzk\u00fdmi osobami, kdy\u017e si matka pot\u0159ebuje n\u011bco za\u0159\u00eddit. A m\u00edra zapojen\u00ed otce m\u016f\u017ee samoz\u0159ejm\u011b s v\u011bkem d\u00edt\u011bte nar\u016fstat a je to \u017e\u00e1douc\u00ed. Ale jde o to, aby d\u00edt\u011b neza\u017e\u00edvalo v t\u00e9 dob\u011b pravidelnou a opakovanou separaci, kdy od n\u011bho matka psychicky i fyzicky prch\u00e1 za jin\u00fdmi z\u00e1jmy. Mnoho d\u011bt\u00ed v\u0161ak dle m\u00fdch zku\u0161enost\u00ed nem\u00e1 ani ve t\u0159ech letech nervov\u00fd syst\u00e9m dostate\u010dn\u011b zral\u00fd na to, aby za\u017e\u00edvalo opakovan\u00e9 odlou\u010den\u00ed od rodi\u010de a re\u00e1ln\u00fd v\u011bk, kdy je d\u00edt\u011b opravdu p\u0159ipraven\u00e9, je zcela individu\u00e1ln\u00ed. Z diskus\u00ed rodi\u010d\u016f, kte\u0159\u00ed sv\u00e9 d\u011bti nikam neodkl\u00e1daj\u00ed a cht\u011bj\u00ed b\u00fdt s nimi co nejd\u00e9le, pro mne vypl\u00fdv\u00e1, \u017ee pr\u016fm\u011brn\u011b tato zralost d\u00edt\u011bte p\u0159irozen\u011b p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed kolem p\u011bti let d\u00edt\u011bte, n\u011bkdy d\u0159\u00edve, n\u011bkdy d\u00e9le. To ostatn\u011b potvrzuje i skute\u010dnost, \u017ee mnoho na\u0161ich klient\u016f, kte\u0159\u00ed chodili do mate\u0159sk\u00e9 \u0161kolky od t\u0159\u00ed let, n\u00e1m referuj\u00ed, a\u017e ani ve t\u0159ech letech nebyli p\u0159ipraveni na pravideln\u00e9 odlou\u010den\u00ed od rodi\u010d\u016f a m\u011bli z pobytu ve \u0161kolce trauma, na kter\u00e9m pak dlouhodob\u011b terapeuticky pracujeme…   Aktu\u00e1ln\u00ed situace v mate\u0159sk\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010diSetk\u00e1v\u00e1m se moment\u00e1ln\u011b s r\u016fzn\u00fdmi matkami \u201ena rodi\u010dovsk\u00e9\u201ca popravd\u011b \u0159e\u010deno, v mnoha p\u0159\u00edpadech u nich nevid\u00edm touhu b\u00fdt s d\u00edt\u011btem co nejd\u00e9le, ale pr\u00e1v\u011b naopak. Mnoho matek m\u00e1 s t\u00edmto aspektem mate\u0159stv\u00ed probl\u00e9m a poskytnout d\u00edt\u011bti svou neohrani\u010denou p\u0159\u00edtomnost a opravdov\u00fd z\u00e1jem p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 neum\u011bj\u00ed, a n\u00e1sledn\u011b ani necht\u011bj\u00ed… Cel\u00fd rozs\u00e1hl\u00fd \u010dl\u00e1nek najdete v \u0159\u00edjnov\u00e9 Medu\u0148ce…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":11735,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[23,1,31,20],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11757","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-deti","category-medunka","category-pro-inspiraci","category-psychologie"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11757","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11757"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11757\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11759,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11757\/revisions\/11759"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11735"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11757"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11757"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11757"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}