{"id":10143,"date":"2024-07-19T06:00:00","date_gmt":"2024-07-19T06:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/?p=10143"},"modified":"2024-07-10T15:58:17","modified_gmt":"2024-07-10T15:58:17","slug":"kdo-je-stastny-je-i-zdravy-5","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/2024\/07\/19\/kdo-je-stastny-je-i-zdravy-5\/","title":{"rendered":"Kdo je \u0161\u0165astn\u00fd, je i zdrav\u00fd…"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

P\u0159e\u010dt\u011bte si dokon\u010den\u00ed 7. kapitoly z knihy PhDr. Petra Novotn\u00e9ho. Autor se v n\u00ed v\u011bnuje fenom\u00e9nu str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed v lidsk\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b…<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n


\u00da\u010dinn\u00fdch strategi\u00ed, je\u017e vedou k\u00a0vymizen\u00ed nebo aspo\u0148 k odleh\u010den\u00ed str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed, je objektivn\u011b bezpo\u010det, by\u0165 mnoh\u00e9 z\u00a0nich jsou tak prost\u00e9, \u017ee je nad nimi ohrnov\u00e1n nos a n\u011bkdy jsou dokonce\u00a0vysm\u00edv\u00e1ny.<\/strong>
Nap\u0159\u00edklad kdy\u017e str\u00e1daj\u00edc\u00ed vypom\u016f\u017ee vst\u0159\u00edcnost\u00ed, soucitem anebo povzbuzen\u00edm jin\u00e9mu str\u00e1daj\u00edc\u00edmu, pak se\u00a0 mu zna\u010dn\u011b uleh\u010d\u00ed i od vlastn\u00edho str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed. Anebo kdy\u017e se kone\u010dn\u011b sm\u00ed\u0159\u00ed s\u00a0neodvratitelnostmi, proti kter\u00fdm p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 dlouho a bezv\u00fdsledn\u011b bojoval.
To je dal\u0161\u00ed geni\u00e1ln\u00ed tah matky p\u0159\u00edrody, kter\u00fd m\u016f\u017ee ka\u017ed\u00fd str\u00e1daj\u00edc\u00ed bleskurychle otestovat.
K\u00a0\u00falev\u011b rovn\u011b\u017e dojde, kdy\u017e str\u00e1daj\u00edc\u00ed p\u0159isoud\u00ed bli\u017en\u00edm stejnou cenu a pr\u00e1vo na nezam\u011bnitelnost, jak\u00e9 u\u017e p\u0159isoudil s\u00e1m sob\u011b.
42let\u00fd t\u011b\u017ece str\u00e1daj\u00edc\u00ed, rozveden\u00fd a psychopaticky zabarven\u00fd klient, m\u011b nav\u0161t\u00edvil u\u017e dvakr\u00e1t. Svoji sv\u00edzelnou situaci hodlal \u0159e\u0161it \u00a0r\u00e1zn\u00fdmi \u010diny a takzvan\u011b jednou prov\u017edy, v\u00a0\u010dem\u017e jsem ho prozat\u00edm d\u016fsledn\u011b brzdil. Byl p\u0159esv\u011bd\u010den, \u017ee kdy\u017e kv\u016fli z\u00e1chran\u011b sv\u00e9ho dvoulet\u00e9ho synka p\u0159ed mat\u010din\u00fdm vlivem tak siln\u011b a vzne\u0161en\u011b str\u00e1d\u00e1, mus\u00ed b\u00fdt pravda na jeho stran\u011b. V\u011bzen\u00ed jsou pln\u00e1 lid\u00ed, kte\u0159\u00ed se obdobn\u011b postoje pokusili prosadit v\u00a0\u017eivotn\u00ed praxi. I proto jsem mu v\u011bnoval zv\u00fd\u0161enou pozornost.
Klient si byl zcela jist, \u017ee s\u00e1m nep\u0159isp\u011bl k\u00a0man\u017eelsk\u00e9 krizi a k\u00a0rozpadu rodiny. Soud sice rozhodl o st\u0159\u00eddav\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010di, av\u0161ak v\u00fdrazn\u011b ve prosp\u011bch matky, co\u017e pova\u017eoval za k\u0159ivdu i za synkovo znev\u00fdhodn\u011bn\u00ed.
Pot\u0159et\u00ed mi u\u017e jen napsal: M\u016fj\u00a0 syn je ne\u0161\u0165astn\u00fd, nechce se ode m\u011b vracet k\u00a0matce, m\u00e1 z\u00a0n\u00ed strach. Zlo ze strany jeho matky nem\u016f\u017eu d\u00e1l p\u0159ehl\u00ed\u017eet. Nehodl\u00e1 jezdit u\u017e ani za jej\u00edmi rodi\u010di, kter\u00e9 m\u00edval r\u00e1d. To mus\u00edm radik\u00e1ln\u011b vy\u0159e\u0161it. J\u00e1 jsem z\u00a0toho ne\u0161\u0165astn\u00fd a syn si uv\u011bdomuje, jak jsem ne\u0161\u0165astn\u00fd\u2026
Obratem jsem odepsal: Chodili ke mn\u011b klienti, kte\u0159\u00ed se V\u00e1m osobnostn\u011b podobali. Cestu do pekel si vydl\u00e1\u017edili v\u00a0dojmu,\u00a0 \u017ee jen oni \u00a0maj\u00ed pravdu, a pak s\u00a0lehk\u00fdm srdcem za\u00fato\u010dili proti tomu, co podle jejich n\u00e1zoru pravdu nem\u011blo. \u010c\u00edm v\u00edce budete tla\u010dit na pilu, t\u00edm men\u0161\u00ed \u0161ance m\u00e1te, abyste dos\u00e1hl obratu k lep\u0161\u00edmu. Toho lze dos\u00e1hnout, jen kdy\u017e bez zlovoln\u00fdch my\u0161lenek a nep\u0159\u00e1telsk\u00fdch \u010din\u016f projdete svou aktu\u00e1ln\u00ed \u017eivotn\u00ed nep\u0159\u00edzn\u00ed\u2026 V\u00e1\u0161 synek\u00a0 je u\u017e jen v\u00a0d\u016fsledku rozpadu Va\u0161\u00ed rodiny a soudn\u00edch tahanic p\u0159edur\u010den k\u00a0neradostn\u00e9mu d\u011btstv\u00ed i k t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9mu dosp\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed. Dejte mu \u0161anci aspo\u0148 k pro\u017eit\u00ed snesiteln\u00e9ho dosp\u011bl\u00e9ho \u017eivota. Jinak zkop\u00edruje Va\u0161e dosp\u011bl\u00e9 str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed. On vn\u00edm\u00e1, \u017ee trp\u00edte, co\u017e ho siln\u011b znepokojuje. Za\u0159i\u010fte, aby V\u00e1s vid\u011bl \u0161\u0165astn\u00e9ho. Nap\u0159\u00edklad ve svazku s\u00a0jinou \u017eenou. Nelze se o d\u00edt\u011b drsn\u011b p\u0159etahovat, aby na to vz\u00e1p\u011bt\u00ed nedoplatilo\u2026
Krati\u010dkou dpov\u011b\u010f na tento dopis jsem dostal a\u017e po \u0161esti m\u011bs\u00edc\u00edch: M\u011bl jste pravdu.Va\u0161e slova pova\u017euji za sv\u016fj kompas.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kdy\u017e m\u011b nav\u0161t\u00edv\u00ed tak \u010di onak nemocn\u00fd, hled\u00e1m zdroje a p\u0159\u00ed\u010diny jeho p\u0159\u00edpadn\u00e9ho d\u011btsk\u00e9ho str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed. Zde je pot\u0159eba bez v\u00fdjimky za\u010d\u00ednat. Osobnostn\u00ed nezam\u011bnitelnost, schopnosti, IQ, vzd\u011bl\u00e1n\u00ed, profese, hodnoty atd. jsou v\u00a0m\u00e9m hled\u00e1\u010dku a\u017e na dal\u0161\u00edch m\u00edstech.<\/strong>
Z\u00e1va\u017en\u011b nemocn\u00ed se pov\u011bt\u0161inou nach\u00e1zej\u00ed ve slep\u00fdch soci\u00e1ln\u00edch ulic\u00edch. Nav\u0161t\u011bvuj\u00ed m\u011b tak\u00e9 psychcky nemocn\u00ed, depresivn\u00ed anebo u\u017e vyl\u00e9\u010den\u00ed, kte\u0159\u00ed se cht\u011bj\u00ed vyvarovat remise sv\u00fdch nemoc\u00ed,\u00a0 anebo ti, kter\u00fdm se nemoc vr\u00e1tila.
V\u0161echny podn\u011bcuji, aby si zlovolnou s\u00edlu str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed (stresu) uv\u011bdomili a co nejd\u0159\u00edve se z\u00a0n\u011bho vymanili, co\u017e ve v\u011bt\u0161in\u011b p\u0159\u00edpad\u016f nen\u00ed v\u016fbec lehk\u00e9 a n\u011bkdy na to b\u00fdv\u00e1\u00a0 m\u00e1lem u\u017e pozd\u011b.
Tito lid\u00e9 od \u017eivota a\u017e tak moc necht\u011bli. Pov\u011bt\u0161inou tou\u017eili po nejz\u00e1kladn\u011bj\u0161\u00edm, \u010deho lze dos\u00e1hnout zd\u00e1nliv\u011b snadno, rychle a zadarmo, tedy po \u0161\u0165\u011bst\u00ed, zdrav\u00ed, b\u011b\u017en\u00e9 hmotn\u00e9 zabezpe\u010denosti, obvykl\u00e9m profesn\u00edm \u00fasp\u011bchu, \u017eivotn\u00ed l\u00e1sce, kamar\u00e1dstv\u00ed, po d\u011btech, harmonick\u00e9 rodin\u011b nebo po dlouh\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b. V\u00a0krajn\u00edm p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b se u m\u011b mihnou tak\u00e9 ti, kte\u0159\u00ed tou\u017e\u00ed jen po teple, j\u00eddle, p\u0159\u00edst\u0159e\u0161\u00ed a soci\u00e1ln\u00ed bl\u00edzkosti.
Do hlav ne\u0161\u0165astn\u00fdch a t\u011b\u017ece nemocn\u00fdch nikdo nevid\u00ed a ani se tam rad\u011bji ned\u00edv\u00e1, pokud se mu se sv\u00fdm tr\u00e1pen\u00edm sami nesv\u011b\u0159\u00ed. Ani \u0161tastn\u00ed o ne\u0161\u0165astn\u00fdch pov\u011bt\u0161inou mnoho nev\u011bd\u00ed, proto\u017ee stresuj\u00edc\u00ed emoce na rozd\u00edl od \u0161tastliveck\u00fdch neb\u00fdvaj\u00ed s nad\u0161en\u00edm sv\u011b\u0159ov\u00e1ny ani dobrovoln\u011b sd\u00edleny.
D\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 je, aby se zdrav\u00ed i nemocn\u00ed v\u010das dozv\u011bd\u011bli, a posl\u00e9ze tento poznatek v\u00a0ka\u017edodenn\u00ed praxi ov\u011b\u0159ovali, toti\u017e \u017ee nikoli jen ne\u0161\u0165astn\u00ed a t\u011b\u017ece nemocn\u00ed, ale i \u0161\u0165astn\u00ed a zdrav\u00ed str\u00e1daj\u00ed nep\u0159\u00edzniv\u00fdmi soci\u00e1ln\u00edmi nebo emo\u010dn\u00edmi situacemi<\/strong>. Ani zdrav\u00ed neproch\u00e1zej\u00ed \u017eivotem bez tak \u010di onak \u00fa\u010deln\u00e9ho str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed. \u00a0
Bohu\u017eel v\u011bt\u0161ina z n\u00e1s\u00a0 nepova\u017euje svoje str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed za \u00fa\u010deln\u00e9, ale sp\u00ed\u0161e za vinu nedokonal\u00e9ho vn\u011bj\u0161ku. Nap\u0159\u00edklad za nepochopen\u00ed ze strany bli\u017en\u00edch a nejbli\u017e\u0161\u00edch, za nehodu, sm\u016flu, d\u011bdictv\u00ed povahy po babi\u010dce, za k\u0159ivdu \u010di nep\u0159ej\u00edcnou n\u00e1hodu.
Jen hrstka jedinc\u016f pova\u017euje svoje str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed za efekt vlastn\u00edch soci\u00e1ln\u00edch pochyben\u00ed, tedy za korektivn\u00ed podn\u011bt matky p\u0159\u00edrody, jen\u017e je podn\u011bcuje zprvu jen lehk\u00fdm str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00edm nap\u0159\u00edklad v\u00a0podob\u011b lehk\u00e9 nemoci, k\u00a0jednoduch\u00fdm,\u00a0rychl\u00fdm a \u00fa\u010dinn\u00fdm soci\u00e1ln\u00edm korekc\u00edm.
Tato hrstka si uv\u011bdomuje, \u017ee p\u0159\u00edroda na n\u011b zatla\u010d\u00ed n\u011bkdy tvrd\u011b i proto, \u017ee sv\u00fdm str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00edm \u0161kod\u00ed nejen sob\u011b, ale i bli\u017en\u00edm, kter\u00fdm deformuj\u00ed spole\u010dn\u00fd soci\u00e1ln\u00ed prostor.
Soci\u00e1ln\u011b a emo\u010dn\u011b vylad\u011bn\u00fd jedinec, souzn\u00ed nejen se sv\u00fdm \u00a0partnerem a se sv\u00fdmi d\u011btmi, ale nap\u0159\u00edklad i se psem sv\u00e9ho souseda, s\u00a0komplikovan\u00fdmi kolegy ve firm\u011b, s\u00a0toulavou ko\u010dkou, se sv\u00fdm ch\u0159adnouc\u00edm f\u00edkusem, s nep\u0159\u00edli\u0161 vst\u0159\u00edcn\u00fdmi sousedy nebo i se svou tchyn\u00ed.\u00a0
Co v\u0161ak p\u0159edstavuje onen m\u00e1lem vzne\u0161en\u011b zn\u011bj\u00edc\u00ed pojem souzn\u011bn\u00ed? Souzn\u011bj\u00edc\u00ed zharmonizoval nejen sebe, ale pota\u017emo i v\u0161e co bylo mo\u017en\u00e9 po dobr\u00e9m zharmonizovat ve vlastn\u00edm bl\u00edzk\u00e9m i vzd\u00e1len\u011bj\u0161\u00edm soci\u00e1ln\u00edm prostoru. A p\u0159\u00edpadn\u011b si uv\u011bdom\u00ed, \u017ee svoje obt\u00ed\u017en\u00e9 anebo bolestn\u00e9 soci\u00e1ln\u00ed situace korigoval n\u011bkdy u\u017e od po\u010d\u00e1tku sv\u00e9ho dosp\u011bl\u00e9ho \u017eivota.
Takov\u00fd \u010dlov\u011bk posl\u00e9ze uv\u011b\u0159\u00ed, \u017ee se lze osvobodit i z okov\u016f\u00a0 takov\u00e9ho str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed a pota\u017emo i z nemoc\u00ed, kter\u00e9 v\u011bt\u0161ina populace pova\u017euje za nesejmuteln\u00e9.
Kdo se u\u017e na prahu dosp\u011blosti osv\u011bd\u010d\u00ed v\u00a0rozli\u010dn\u00fdch soci\u00e1ln\u00edch korekc\u00edch, ten se vyhne spolehliv\u011bji drsn\u011bj\u0161\u00edmu a nebezpe\u010dn\u011bj\u0161\u00edmu str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed ve st\u0159edn\u00edm nebo pokro\u010dilej\u0161\u00edm v\u011bku. A nejsou pot\u0159eba b\u016fhv\u00edjak\u00e9 korekce \u010di vzne\u0161en\u00e9 soci\u00e1ln\u00ed po\u010diny nap\u0159\u00edklad v\u00a0podob\u011b zachra\u0148ov\u00e1n\u00ed tonouc\u00edch z\u00a0rozbou\u0159en\u00e9 \u0159eky a vyn\u00e1\u0161en\u00ed ne\u0161\u0165astn\u00edk\u016f z ho\u0159\u00edc\u00edho\u00a0pe\u010dovatelsk\u00e9ho domu.
K\u00a0rychl\u00e9 korekci a k okam\u017eit\u00e9 soci\u00e1ln\u00ed \u00falev\u011b posta\u010d\u00ed \u010detn\u00e9 a nen\u00e1padn\u00e9 po\u010diny. Osv\u011bd\u010d\u00ed se nap\u0159\u00edklad pouh\u00fd \u00fasm\u011bv, pohled do o\u010d\u00ed, v\u0159el\u00fd pozdrav, vyj\u00e1d\u0159en\u00ed \u00fa\u010dasti \u010di up\u0159\u00edmn\u00e1 kondolence, dod\u00e1n\u00ed sebed\u016fv\u011bry, blahop\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed, pochvala, popl\u00e1c\u00e1n\u00ed po z\u00e1dech anebo p\u0159\u00e1telsk\u00e9 gesto v\u00a0podob\u011b zvednut\u00e9ho palce.
A v\u00a0rodin\u011b zp\u016fsob\u00ed emo\u010dn\u00ed z\u00e1zrak pouh\u00e9 pohlazen\u00ed, povzbuzen\u00ed, optimistick\u00e9 nalad\u011bn\u00ed, pozornost, vl\u00eddnost \u00a0a \u00facta k\u00a0partnerovi i k d\u011btem, kytka anebo \u0161ampa\u0148k\u00e9 i bez slavnostn\u00ed ud\u00e1losti. Zde v\u00fdznamn\u011b pom\u016f\u017ee tak\u00e9 up\u0159\u00edmn\u00e1 omluva se slzou v\u00a0oku, i to je tis\u00edcovkami let osv\u011bd\u010den\u00e1 \u010dlov\u011b\u010dina.<\/strong>
A kdy\u017e se tyto drobnosti spolehliv\u011b osv\u011bd\u010d\u00ed, pak se vyplat\u00ed \u0161l\u00e1pnout na soci\u00e1ln\u00ed plyn a projevit systemati\u010dt\u011bj\u0161\u00ed z\u00e1jem o probl\u00e9my bli\u017en\u00edch a nejbli\u017e\u0161\u00edch. Nap\u0159\u00edklad c\u00edlev\u011bdom\u011b testovat efekty usm\u00ed\u0159en\u00ed, pokory, skromnosti, sebeironie, odpou\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed, velkomyslnosti, \u0161t\u011bdrosti a vl\u00eddnosti.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

P\u0159e\u010dt\u011bte si dokon\u010den\u00ed 7. kapitoly z knihy PhDr. Petra Novotn\u00e9ho. Autor se v n\u00ed v\u011bnuje fenom\u00e9nu str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed v lidsk\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b… \u00da\u010dinn\u00fdch strategi\u00ed, je\u017e vedou k\u00a0vymizen\u00ed nebo aspo\u0148 k odleh\u010den\u00ed str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed, je objektivn\u011b bezpo\u010det, by\u0165 mnoh\u00e9 z\u00a0nich jsou tak prost\u00e9, \u017ee je nad nimi ohrnov\u00e1n nos a n\u011bkdy jsou dokonce\u00a0vysm\u00edv\u00e1ny.Nap\u0159\u00edklad kdy\u017e str\u00e1daj\u00edc\u00ed vypom\u016f\u017ee vst\u0159\u00edcnost\u00ed, soucitem anebo povzbuzen\u00edm jin\u00e9mu str\u00e1daj\u00edc\u00edmu, pak se\u00a0 mu zna\u010dn\u011b uleh\u010d\u00ed i od vlastn\u00edho str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed. Anebo kdy\u017e se kone\u010dn\u011b sm\u00ed\u0159\u00ed s\u00a0neodvratitelnostmi, proti kter\u00fdm p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 dlouho a bezv\u00fdsledn\u011b bojoval.To je dal\u0161\u00ed geni\u00e1ln\u00ed tah matky p\u0159\u00edrody, kter\u00fd m\u016f\u017ee ka\u017ed\u00fd str\u00e1daj\u00edc\u00ed bleskurychle otestovat.K\u00a0\u00falev\u011b rovn\u011b\u017e dojde, kdy\u017e str\u00e1daj\u00edc\u00ed p\u0159isoud\u00ed bli\u017en\u00edm stejnou cenu a pr\u00e1vo na nezam\u011bnitelnost, jak\u00e9 u\u017e p\u0159isoudil s\u00e1m sob\u011b.42let\u00fd t\u011b\u017ece str\u00e1daj\u00edc\u00ed, rozveden\u00fd a psychopaticky zabarven\u00fd klient, m\u011b nav\u0161t\u00edvil u\u017e dvakr\u00e1t. Svoji sv\u00edzelnou situaci hodlal \u0159e\u0161it \u00a0r\u00e1zn\u00fdmi \u010diny a takzvan\u011b jednou prov\u017edy, v\u00a0\u010dem\u017e jsem ho prozat\u00edm d\u016fsledn\u011b brzdil. Byl p\u0159esv\u011bd\u010den, \u017ee kdy\u017e kv\u016fli z\u00e1chran\u011b sv\u00e9ho dvoulet\u00e9ho synka p\u0159ed mat\u010din\u00fdm vlivem tak siln\u011b a vzne\u0161en\u011b str\u00e1d\u00e1, mus\u00ed b\u00fdt pravda na jeho stran\u011b. V\u011bzen\u00ed jsou pln\u00e1 lid\u00ed, kte\u0159\u00ed se obdobn\u011b postoje pokusili prosadit v\u00a0\u017eivotn\u00ed praxi. I proto jsem mu v\u011bnoval zv\u00fd\u0161enou pozornost.Klient si byl zcela jist, \u017ee s\u00e1m nep\u0159isp\u011bl k\u00a0man\u017eelsk\u00e9 krizi a k\u00a0rozpadu rodiny. Soud sice rozhodl o st\u0159\u00eddav\u00e9 p\u00e9\u010di, av\u0161ak v\u00fdrazn\u011b ve prosp\u011bch matky, co\u017e pova\u017eoval za k\u0159ivdu i za synkovo znev\u00fdhodn\u011bn\u00ed.Pot\u0159et\u00ed mi u\u017e jen napsal: M\u016fj\u00a0 syn je ne\u0161\u0165astn\u00fd, nechce se ode m\u011b vracet k\u00a0matce, m\u00e1 z\u00a0n\u00ed strach. Zlo ze strany jeho matky nem\u016f\u017eu d\u00e1l p\u0159ehl\u00ed\u017eet. Nehodl\u00e1 jezdit u\u017e ani za jej\u00edmi rodi\u010di, kter\u00e9 m\u00edval r\u00e1d. To mus\u00edm radik\u00e1ln\u011b vy\u0159e\u0161it. J\u00e1 jsem z\u00a0toho ne\u0161\u0165astn\u00fd a syn si uv\u011bdomuje, jak jsem ne\u0161\u0165astn\u00fd\u2026Obratem jsem odepsal: Chodili ke mn\u011b klienti, kte\u0159\u00ed se V\u00e1m osobnostn\u011b podobali. Cestu do pekel si vydl\u00e1\u017edili v\u00a0dojmu,\u00a0 \u017ee jen oni \u00a0maj\u00ed pravdu, a pak s\u00a0lehk\u00fdm srdcem za\u00fato\u010dili proti tomu, co podle jejich n\u00e1zoru pravdu nem\u011blo. \u010c\u00edm v\u00edce budete tla\u010dit na pilu, t\u00edm men\u0161\u00ed \u0161ance m\u00e1te, abyste dos\u00e1hl obratu k lep\u0161\u00edmu. Toho lze dos\u00e1hnout, jen kdy\u017e bez zlovoln\u00fdch my\u0161lenek a nep\u0159\u00e1telsk\u00fdch \u010din\u016f projdete svou aktu\u00e1ln\u00ed \u017eivotn\u00ed nep\u0159\u00edzn\u00ed\u2026 V\u00e1\u0161 synek\u00a0 je u\u017e jen v\u00a0d\u016fsledku rozpadu Va\u0161\u00ed rodiny a soudn\u00edch tahanic p\u0159edur\u010den k\u00a0neradostn\u00e9mu d\u011btstv\u00ed i k t\u011b\u017ek\u00e9mu dosp\u00edv\u00e1n\u00ed. Dejte mu \u0161anci aspo\u0148 k pro\u017eit\u00ed snesiteln\u00e9ho dosp\u011bl\u00e9ho \u017eivota. Jinak zkop\u00edruje Va\u0161e dosp\u011bl\u00e9 str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed. On vn\u00edm\u00e1, \u017ee trp\u00edte, co\u017e ho siln\u011b znepokojuje. Za\u0159i\u010fte, aby V\u00e1s vid\u011bl \u0161\u0165astn\u00e9ho. Nap\u0159\u00edklad ve svazku s\u00a0jinou \u017eenou. Nelze se o d\u00edt\u011b drsn\u011b p\u0159etahovat, aby na to vz\u00e1p\u011bt\u00ed nedoplatilo\u2026Krati\u010dkou dpov\u011b\u010f na tento dopis jsem dostal a\u017e po \u0161esti m\u011bs\u00edc\u00edch: M\u011bl jste pravdu.Va\u0161e slova pova\u017euji za sv\u016fj kompas. Kdy\u017e m\u011b nav\u0161t\u00edv\u00ed tak \u010di onak nemocn\u00fd, hled\u00e1m zdroje a p\u0159\u00ed\u010diny jeho p\u0159\u00edpadn\u00e9ho d\u011btsk\u00e9ho str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed. Zde je pot\u0159eba bez v\u00fdjimky za\u010d\u00ednat. Osobnostn\u00ed nezam\u011bnitelnost, schopnosti, IQ, vzd\u011bl\u00e1n\u00ed, profese, hodnoty atd. jsou v\u00a0m\u00e9m hled\u00e1\u010dku a\u017e na dal\u0161\u00edch m\u00edstech.Z\u00e1va\u017en\u011b nemocn\u00ed se pov\u011bt\u0161inou nach\u00e1zej\u00ed ve slep\u00fdch soci\u00e1ln\u00edch ulic\u00edch. Nav\u0161t\u011bvuj\u00ed m\u011b tak\u00e9 psychcky nemocn\u00ed, depresivn\u00ed anebo u\u017e vyl\u00e9\u010den\u00ed, kte\u0159\u00ed se cht\u011bj\u00ed vyvarovat remise sv\u00fdch nemoc\u00ed,\u00a0 anebo ti, kter\u00fdm se nemoc vr\u00e1tila.V\u0161echny podn\u011bcuji, aby si zlovolnou s\u00edlu str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed (stresu) uv\u011bdomili a co nejd\u0159\u00edve se z\u00a0n\u011bho vymanili, co\u017e ve v\u011bt\u0161in\u011b p\u0159\u00edpad\u016f nen\u00ed v\u016fbec lehk\u00e9 a n\u011bkdy na to b\u00fdv\u00e1\u00a0 m\u00e1lem u\u017e pozd\u011b.Tito lid\u00e9 od \u017eivota a\u017e tak moc necht\u011bli. Pov\u011bt\u0161inou tou\u017eili po nejz\u00e1kladn\u011bj\u0161\u00edm, \u010deho lze dos\u00e1hnout zd\u00e1nliv\u011b snadno, rychle a zadarmo, tedy po \u0161\u0165\u011bst\u00ed, zdrav\u00ed, b\u011b\u017en\u00e9 hmotn\u00e9 zabezpe\u010denosti, obvykl\u00e9m profesn\u00edm \u00fasp\u011bchu, \u017eivotn\u00ed l\u00e1sce, kamar\u00e1dstv\u00ed, po d\u011btech, harmonick\u00e9 rodin\u011b nebo po dlouh\u00e9m \u017eivot\u011b. V\u00a0krajn\u00edm p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b se u m\u011b mihnou tak\u00e9 ti, kte\u0159\u00ed tou\u017e\u00ed jen po teple, j\u00eddle, p\u0159\u00edst\u0159e\u0161\u00ed a soci\u00e1ln\u00ed bl\u00edzkosti.Do hlav ne\u0161\u0165astn\u00fdch a t\u011b\u017ece nemocn\u00fdch nikdo nevid\u00ed a ani se tam rad\u011bji ned\u00edv\u00e1, pokud se mu se sv\u00fdm tr\u00e1pen\u00edm sami nesv\u011b\u0159\u00ed. Ani \u0161tastn\u00ed o ne\u0161\u0165astn\u00fdch pov\u011bt\u0161inou mnoho nev\u011bd\u00ed, proto\u017ee stresuj\u00edc\u00ed emoce na rozd\u00edl od \u0161tastliveck\u00fdch neb\u00fdvaj\u00ed s nad\u0161en\u00edm sv\u011b\u0159ov\u00e1ny ani dobrovoln\u011b sd\u00edleny.D\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 je, aby se zdrav\u00ed i nemocn\u00ed v\u010das dozv\u011bd\u011bli, a posl\u00e9ze tento poznatek v\u00a0ka\u017edodenn\u00ed praxi ov\u011b\u0159ovali, toti\u017e \u017ee nikoli jen ne\u0161\u0165astn\u00ed a t\u011b\u017ece nemocn\u00ed, ale i \u0161\u0165astn\u00ed a zdrav\u00ed str\u00e1daj\u00ed nep\u0159\u00edzniv\u00fdmi soci\u00e1ln\u00edmi nebo emo\u010dn\u00edmi situacemi. Ani zdrav\u00ed neproch\u00e1zej\u00ed \u017eivotem bez tak \u010di onak \u00fa\u010deln\u00e9ho str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed. \u00a0Bohu\u017eel v\u011bt\u0161ina z n\u00e1s\u00a0 nepova\u017euje svoje str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed za \u00fa\u010deln\u00e9, ale sp\u00ed\u0161e za vinu nedokonal\u00e9ho vn\u011bj\u0161ku. Nap\u0159\u00edklad za nepochopen\u00ed ze strany bli\u017en\u00edch a nejbli\u017e\u0161\u00edch, za nehodu, sm\u016flu, d\u011bdictv\u00ed povahy po babi\u010dce, za k\u0159ivdu \u010di nep\u0159ej\u00edcnou n\u00e1hodu.Jen hrstka jedinc\u016f pova\u017euje svoje str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed za efekt vlastn\u00edch soci\u00e1ln\u00edch pochyben\u00ed, tedy za korektivn\u00ed podn\u011bt matky p\u0159\u00edrody, jen\u017e je podn\u011bcuje zprvu jen lehk\u00fdm str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00edm nap\u0159\u00edklad v\u00a0podob\u011b lehk\u00e9 nemoci, k\u00a0jednoduch\u00fdm,\u00a0rychl\u00fdm a \u00fa\u010dinn\u00fdm soci\u00e1ln\u00edm korekc\u00edm.Tato hrstka si uv\u011bdomuje, \u017ee p\u0159\u00edroda na n\u011b zatla\u010d\u00ed n\u011bkdy tvrd\u011b i proto, \u017ee sv\u00fdm str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00edm \u0161kod\u00ed nejen sob\u011b, ale i bli\u017en\u00edm, kter\u00fdm deformuj\u00ed spole\u010dn\u00fd soci\u00e1ln\u00ed prostor.Soci\u00e1ln\u011b a emo\u010dn\u011b vylad\u011bn\u00fd jedinec, souzn\u00ed nejen se sv\u00fdm \u00a0partnerem a se sv\u00fdmi d\u011btmi, ale nap\u0159\u00edklad i se psem sv\u00e9ho souseda, s\u00a0komplikovan\u00fdmi kolegy ve firm\u011b, s\u00a0toulavou ko\u010dkou, se sv\u00fdm ch\u0159adnouc\u00edm f\u00edkusem, s nep\u0159\u00edli\u0161 vst\u0159\u00edcn\u00fdmi sousedy nebo i se svou tchyn\u00ed.\u00a0Co v\u0161ak p\u0159edstavuje onen m\u00e1lem vzne\u0161en\u011b zn\u011bj\u00edc\u00ed pojem souzn\u011bn\u00ed? Souzn\u011bj\u00edc\u00ed zharmonizoval nejen sebe, ale pota\u017emo i v\u0161e co bylo mo\u017en\u00e9 po dobr\u00e9m zharmonizovat ve vlastn\u00edm bl\u00edzk\u00e9m i vzd\u00e1len\u011bj\u0161\u00edm soci\u00e1ln\u00edm prostoru. A p\u0159\u00edpadn\u011b si uv\u011bdom\u00ed, \u017ee svoje obt\u00ed\u017en\u00e9 anebo bolestn\u00e9 soci\u00e1ln\u00ed situace korigoval n\u011bkdy u\u017e od po\u010d\u00e1tku sv\u00e9ho dosp\u011bl\u00e9ho \u017eivota.Takov\u00fd \u010dlov\u011bk posl\u00e9ze uv\u011b\u0159\u00ed, \u017ee se lze osvobodit i z okov\u016f\u00a0 takov\u00e9ho str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed a pota\u017emo i z nemoc\u00ed, kter\u00e9 v\u011bt\u0161ina populace pova\u017euje za nesejmuteln\u00e9.Kdo se u\u017e na prahu dosp\u011blosti osv\u011bd\u010d\u00ed v\u00a0rozli\u010dn\u00fdch soci\u00e1ln\u00edch korekc\u00edch, ten se vyhne spolehliv\u011bji drsn\u011bj\u0161\u00edmu a nebezpe\u010dn\u011bj\u0161\u00edmu str\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed ve st\u0159edn\u00edm nebo pokro\u010dilej\u0161\u00edm v\u011bku. A nejsou pot\u0159eba b\u016fhv\u00edjak\u00e9 korekce \u010di vzne\u0161en\u00e9 soci\u00e1ln\u00ed po\u010diny nap\u0159\u00edklad v\u00a0podob\u011b zachra\u0148ov\u00e1n\u00ed tonouc\u00edch z\u00a0rozbou\u0159en\u00e9 \u0159eky a vyn\u00e1\u0161en\u00ed ne\u0161\u0165astn\u00edk\u016f z ho\u0159\u00edc\u00edho\u00a0pe\u010dovatelsk\u00e9ho domu.K\u00a0rychl\u00e9 korekci a k okam\u017eit\u00e9 soci\u00e1ln\u00ed \u00falev\u011b posta\u010d\u00ed \u010detn\u00e9 a nen\u00e1padn\u00e9 po\u010diny. Osv\u011bd\u010d\u00ed se nap\u0159\u00edklad pouh\u00fd \u00fasm\u011bv, pohled do o\u010d\u00ed, v\u0159el\u00fd pozdrav, vyj\u00e1d\u0159en\u00ed \u00fa\u010dasti \u010di up\u0159\u00edmn\u00e1 kondolence, dod\u00e1n\u00ed sebed\u016fv\u011bry, blahop\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed, pochvala, popl\u00e1c\u00e1n\u00ed po z\u00e1dech anebo p\u0159\u00e1telsk\u00e9 gesto v\u00a0podob\u011b zvednut\u00e9ho palce.A v\u00a0rodin\u011b zp\u016fsob\u00ed emo\u010dn\u00ed z\u00e1zrak pouh\u00e9 pohlazen\u00ed, povzbuzen\u00ed, optimistick\u00e9 nalad\u011bn\u00ed, pozornost, vl\u00eddnost \u00a0a \u00facta k\u00a0partnerovi i k d\u011btem, kytka anebo \u0161ampa\u0148k\u00e9 i bez slavnostn\u00ed ud\u00e1losti. Zde v\u00fdznamn\u011b pom\u016f\u017ee tak\u00e9 up\u0159\u00edmn\u00e1 omluva se slzou v\u00a0oku, i to je tis\u00edcovkami let osv\u011bd\u010den\u00e1 \u010dlov\u011b\u010dina.A kdy\u017e se tyto drobnosti spolehliv\u011b osv\u011bd\u010d\u00ed, pak se vyplat\u00ed \u0161l\u00e1pnout na soci\u00e1ln\u00ed plyn a projevit systemati\u010dt\u011bj\u0161\u00ed z\u00e1jem o probl\u00e9my bli\u017en\u00edch a nejbli\u017e\u0161\u00edch. Nap\u0159\u00edklad c\u00edlev\u011bdom\u011b testovat efekty usm\u00ed\u0159en\u00ed, pokory, skromnosti, sebeironie, odpou\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed, velkomyslnosti, \u0161t\u011bdrosti a vl\u00eddnosti.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":9950,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[134,1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10143","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-ctenarska-sekce","category-medunka"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10143","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10143"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10143\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":10144,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10143\/revisions\/10144"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/9950"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10143"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10143"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.mojemedunka.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10143"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}